alethean Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I totally agree with you. I've yet to see a beauty with a geek/Beast who does not have at least something women like( personality, money, etc). Some of the users here assumed that BEASTs are just unattractive but have all the rest. And yeah... i always see beauties with hot guys for the most part. Or if they're not super hot guys.. they're average or alitttle above. And yeah, when i say i want a pretty girl i usually mean a hot girl who's polar opposite of me or at least some what above me in terms of attractiveness Are you serious right now? How can you want a "beauty" when you have absolutely nothing to offer yourself? If you don't have personality, "stable employment" as someone else said, or looks, then what the heck is a woman supposed to do with you?
Author quietGuy13 Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 (edited) Are you serious right now? How can you want a "beauty" when you have absolutely nothing to offer yourself? If you don't have personality, "stable employment" as someone else said, or looks, then what the heck is a woman supposed to do with you? I'm just saying that some of us Average guys are not great in personality either AND thus we don't have great jobs and stable employment. Yeah it's true and I'm not a great speaker. SO yeah it's true i have nothing to offer that women like. EXCEPT that i'm a nice person. But since women don't care about that, it's tough. BTW just an interesting thing. Just now in OKCupid i emailed an attractive girl who's studying LAW(studying to be a lawyer or something) and no response. hehehe. kinda proved my theory hehehehe and yeah i had a picture up and my email was nice and friendly. but i don't think she will ever answer. Edited February 10, 2011 by quietGuy13
alethean Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I'm just saying that some of us Average guys are not great in personality either AND thus we don't have great jobs and stable employment. Yeah it's true and I'm not a great speaker. SO yeah it's true i have nothing to offer that women like. EXCEPT that i'm a nice person. But since women don't care about that, it's tough. Being a nice person is a positive personality trait. I've seen plenty of genuinely nice guys in relationships and in marriages, so I don't think that's the true problem...but from the threads I have seen from you, confidence seems to be lacking, and this may be what's holding you back. You've convinced yourself that you're not what women want and so you won't be what women want, a self-fulfilling prophecy...
musemaj11 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I'm just saying that some of us Average guys are not great in personality either AND thus we don't have great jobs and stable employment. Yeah it's true and I'm not a great speaker. SO yeah it's true i have nothing to offer that women like. EXCEPT that i'm a nice person. But since women don't care about that, it's tough. BTW just an interesting thing. Just now in OKCupid i emailed an attractive girl who's studying LAW(studying to be a lawyer or something) and no response. hehehe. kinda proved my theory hehehehe and yeah i had a picture up and my email was nice and friendly. but i don't think she will ever answer. I understand ur position, but I have to say that u r a selfish person. U have nothing but u r upset because u can't get someone who has something.
SteveC80 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 unattractive people arent attracted to other unattractive people either,its up to them whter or not they want to settle or be alone
musemaj11 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Honestly I detest people who feel entitled to something they don't deserve. When I get rejected by someone more attractive, I'm not angry at her for not being attracted to me. Instead I'm angry at myself for not being attractive enough to attract her.
SteveC80 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Honestly I detest people who feel entitled to something they don't deserve. When I get rejected by someone more attractive, I'm not angry at her for not being attracted to me. Instead I'm angry at myself for not being attractive enough to attract her. what about entitled unattractive wome who feel they deesrve better because maybe some hot guy banged her when he was drunk
cerridwen Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I'm just saying that some of us Average guys are not great in personality either AND thus we don't have great jobs and stable employment. Yeah it's true and I'm not a great speaker. SO yeah it's true i have nothing to offer that women like. Forgive me I.T. department but I've worked in the computer field for a long time and run across more than a handful of men with zero personality. Yet, they have great high paying jobs. OP, you need to believe in yourself. You can develop your speaking skills which will help improve your confidence. It CAN be done. I's a step by step process to getting where you'd like to be. And as another poster said, being a nice person COUNTS! Don't dismiss what you have to offer. Just continue to develop yourself.
Els Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Which is why the myth will continue to stand "Confidence, a wicked sense of humor, and solid employment." What average guy will have those 3 at once. *shrugs* Those 3 are a LOT easier to have than smoking hot looks, IMO. The bf has all 3. So do I. Anyway, I can't say I feel sorry for you at all, since you're certainly not targeting the 'average' woman. I wonder how people would react to threads by a woman whining about 'millionaires not wanting average women'?
Author quietGuy13 Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 "I can't say I feel sorry for you at all, since you're certainly not targeting the 'average' woman." Well i'm not targetting anyone. I don't even talk to women yet. This thread was just my thoughts and observations.
ascendotum Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Honestly I detest people who feel entitled to something they don't deserve. When I get rejected by someone more attractive, I'm not angry at her for not being attracted to me. Instead I'm angry at myself for not being attractive enough to attract her. I can relate to the above. QG - there's been a flurry of posts from you past month. Totally jack of another year gone and no nookie eh. Dude did you make a new year resolution? You should have...quiteguy13 v2.0 From some of your posts I have seen, you need to overhaul your image as best you can. I saw you got some responses to a past post along the lines of, looks aren't a big deal for women, there will be someone out there for you, just talk to women more, yadayada...yeah watch the years roll by. Keep those baby steps happening when it comes to making approaches to women but steal yourself for encountering some attitude back with some women, it'll happen, and you need to be expect it and forge on. I was a skinny guy, and its not easy dude. Seriously, THE best baby step you can take is the one though the door of a gym to take out a membership. You'll likely be a hard gainer so read up, eat more and be prepared to spend up on supplements. Also be prepared to spend up on stylish clothes if you don't already. Check out GQ for a guide. Get involved in some hooby pastime that involves more interaction with people. IDK - do a painting class or take up indoor rock climbing. You need to lose the quiet guy rock personality like a bad habit, but I'm sure you know it, its not too late. As one of your baby steps, maybe listen to a self-confidence hypnosis cd at night. You need to become more desirable, and you need to be your own coach. Given your description of yourself, those 40 something women who you say are the friendliest, well there's a good chance thats what your future dream girl is going to be, if you don't change or get lucky. Also, you said you suffered bad dandruff. Look into morrocan mud shampoo or Nioxin shampoo/conditioners. Also see if you can correlate your dandruff to any of the foods you eat. You could have food intolerances that aggravate your scalp. Oh yeah, when meeting girls don't mention you have not had a GF. Be prepared with answers. As for your current post, beauties with ugly guys, well its rare, but I do see/know a few examples, and in pretty much all cases what the guy lacked in handsome features, he made up for with very masculine physique + presence or was a wild guy with attitude. Sorry mate but beautiful/sexy girls are not equally distributed amongst all the guys. Call it a law of nature. There's plenty of 'just okay' looking women that are still sexy, but you can't let too many more years go by. I thought I saw a post of yours were a girl from the past contacted you and wanted to hang out, but you deleted her details. Why was she not good enough for a so called 'ugly' guy?
irc333 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I've seen it....there's this couple I know, that met on a dating site, have been together for a while, and moved into together. The guy is not just chubby, but virtually a candidate of being one of those guys that fireman might have to saw open his bedroom to get him out....that is if he continues the course of his weight gain She's just probably 90 lb petite cutiethat could barely fight herself out of a wet paper bag. What shocked ME was , that she met hin online, and Im suprised she didnt delete his email as soon as she saw how BIG he was...if she met him in real life...then it would make a LITTLE more sense, but online...anyone would delete his email. at least anyone that is small framed as she is I'm afraid he would roll over and squash her in bed if he wasn't careful....of suffocate her....literally. not making fun, but seriously Outside of the usual Hollywood scenario where the "beast" happens to be loaded (Hugh Heffner, anyone?), I think it's a myth. I've never seen a pairing where there was one partner I'd describe as a "beauty" and the other, a "beast." Two beauties, two beasts, two average ppl sure. Mingling between the average and the beauties or the beasts is also a pretty common occurrence, ime. Unions between polar opposites on the attractiveness scale, though? Can't say I've ever seen such a thing in real life. Question OP: when you say you want a "pretty" girl, do you mean hot (the polar opposite of the description you've given of yourself) or just someone who's decent looking/average?
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