JaneDoe35 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 My ex-husband was abandoned in childhood a few times. By biological and step-parents. Although we are no longer married I cannot turn my back on him. But I am finding it very draining helping him all the time. I want to help him as if he is OK then our child will be OK too. He has a fantastic career and is loved. But he cannot be without a woman. He cannot bear to be alone. That would be fine except he has been choosing some unusual women to stop him feeling lonely...constant drama's. Can anyone give me the details of any books that may help him work through his abandonment issues? I have been looking online but was hoping for some opinions from people who have experienced a similar childhood to my ex-husband. Thanks.
paleblue Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 why dont you hook him up with someone? than you can kill two birds with one stone. you;re off the hook and he is happy?
Author JaneDoe35 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Sent you a PM JaneDoe. cerridwen - PM did not come through. Is there any chance you could try again? Thanks.
Div Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 cerridwen - PM did not come through. Is there any chance you could try again? Thanks. Could you please post a few of the books here. I am looking also. Thanks.
cerridwen Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Could you please post a few of the books here. I am looking also. Thanks. You can look for books on the subjects of Attachment and Loss, Separation Anxiety, Healing Abandonment, Attachment Behavior. epending on the manifestation, you might look at Love/Emotional Dependency as well. A few titles: Attachments: Why You Feel, Act, and Love the Way You Do. (Has an emphasis on God in the second part of the book) by Dr. Timothy Clinton. The Journey from Abandonment to Healing is kind of a classic. @ JaneDoe35 Attachment in Adulthood by Mario Mikulincer is another one to consider. Scholarly but good stuff.
ALonerAgain Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 (edited) You can look for books on the subjects of Attachment and Loss, Separation Anxiety, Healing Abandonment, Attachment Behavior. epending on the manifestation, you might look at Love/Emotional Dependency as well. A few titles: Attachments: Why You Feel, Act, and Love the Way You Do. (Has an emphasis on God in the second part of the book) by Dr. Timothy Clinton. The Journey from Abandonment to Healing is kind of a classic. @ JaneDoe35 Attachment in Adulthood by Mario Mikulincer is another one to consider. Scholarly but good stuff. I would also second the "Journey from Abandonment to Healing" by Susan Anderson and any of her other books. She also has a website as well: http://www.abandonment.net/ You might also want to look at my other thread which has a book list that might be helpful. I would also get him looking at re-parenting himself so that he learns to love and accept himself rather than relying on women/others to do it for him (some of this is listed on that thread). Has he also tried therapy and/or group workshops that specialise in abandonment healing? Edited February 15, 2011 by ALonerAgain
cerridwen Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 (edited) Another...with a link to Journey from Abandonment... Secret Pains: Identifying and Overcoming Unresolved Inner Pains and Anger from Parental Abandonment: [COLOR=#990000]http://books.google.com/books?id=QRv...page&q&f=false[/COLOR] The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: http://books.google.com/books?id=f3O8ipIjwqEC&printsec=frontcover&dq=journey+from+abandonment+to+healing&hl=en&src=bmrr&ei=nd1aTdC9D4O8sQOErsykCg&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CCsQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q&f=false @ALonerAgain-Great thread!! Edited February 15, 2011 by cerridwen
wmrjw82 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I'm in the same boat as your ex and have been hurt over and over again. Not ashamed to admit that i've been in therapy and some good books i've been recommended and have read are: Codependent No More Beyond Codependency No More Mr Nice Guy ----------- Those 3 are very good reads. Have them check it out. Opens up new insights to yourself.
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