elaina Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 Same here. And I'm glad all my friends are the honorable and respectful type. But the so-called predatory mindset doesn't necessarily need to involve Tmax's particular tactics or his assh*le behavior...it's simply focusing on a certain demographic that is more apt to give it up...as you said, some attention is better than no attention at all... That's cool about your friends. Some of my friends are reform bad boys/girls. They used to be druggies and/or alcoholics and were big into the party scene with sex with anybody, waking up drunk and/or high with someone who they have no idea their name and could care less about. However, they didn't stay that way, and they're not proud of it. Now they work hard to not go back to that lifestyle. They are glad to be out of it. It's an addiction and addiction is slavery. I'm addicted to coffee lol. If I don't drink coffee, I get a big headache. Well, those who are in that kind of lifestyle have a lot of chains to break and lots of pain to endure in order to get out. I admit that I have had times where I would have liked to experience that kind of lifestyle just a little bit, just to see what it's like. When I've told them that, you won't believe the stories of hard times they've endured, of STDs some have, of people they have hurt/crimes they have committed, of their children they have neglected of past memories and present consequences they wish were not theirs. So, that kind of lifestyle can really hurt people, and is really hard for some people to get out of. Not everybody who gets in that lifestyle comes out alive and unscathed, basically. Concerning some attention is better than no attention... well it depends on what you want. Do you want your life to count for helping others, or for just taking what you can get? You know? What is your goal/purpose/meaning in life? If your life is just to get laid, than yeah it seems focusing on those who would "give it up" without love and without respect would be a person's goal. But if one's goals are higher than that, then no... they would keep their eyes on the prize, like an Olympic medalist does... they wouldn't lower their standards for temporary pleasure, but go for the gold!
Author USMCHokie Posted February 9, 2011 Author Posted February 9, 2011 (edited) I agree with what you're saying. I guess the reason for my thread was just my curiousity as to how or why TMax and others like him are so successful... He is hardly my role model...definitely not my style... Edited February 9, 2011 by USMCHokie
elaina Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 (edited) I agree with what you're saying. I guess the reason for my thread was just my curiousity as to how or why TMax and others like him are so successful... He is hardly my role model...definitely not my style... Cool Well I am not saying that TMax doesn't deserve life or fun or happiness or pleasure or anything like that. I just hope that someday he will be able to know what true love is and truly respect women and enjoy life, fun, happiness, and pleasure through respect and love, not through using people. People can change if they put their mind to it, though it's hard. He does have a great talent with his humor and writing skills... I think he'd still be funny if he respects women and has a different lifestyle... I don't think he would lose his talents if he began to respect and care for others, rather they could get even better! I don't think respecting women would hurt him at all... but it's his decision if he wants to fight to change or just stay how he is. But yeah i see why you're curious, and yeah I think the answer is that women are looking for attention to fill their desire for love. Many people, both men and women, desire love and crave attention even if it's negative. Women with high standards though do not give in to men who just use them. For some, it's a painful learning experience. For others, they learn from people who have high standards and who do respect/love others. I hope more and more people will learn through good role models, both male and female, and not through painful life lessons. Edited February 9, 2011 by elaina
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