purplepanda Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Okay, I've been friends with this boy for almost a year now. We talked on facebook, just as friends because he had a girlfriend. I didn't have a cell phone at that point so it wasn't all the time, but we talked a couple times a week online. When I got a cell phone right before christmas (I'm a junior, 17, he's a senior, 18) we texted a lot (he and that girl had broke up months before). Then we became friends with benefits...we fell for each other. We met up and my parents know that we did and we were alone. My mom said that she'd like to see me do it the right way, and of course my dad said HECK NO you can't see him. One day after secretly meeting up at my friend's house, I was already home and he left too. He lives 40 miles away, has a job so he pays for gas, but I told him I'd help every once in awhile, cause I'd feel guilty that he's spending so much money to come see me. He didn't text back for like 3 hours, so I just said 'whatever'. Then around 9 he said "I got arrested in your town..." He went the wrong way home, was on Empty for 30 miles, found a gas station and bought food. He paid for the food but forgot to pay for the gas. (I'm so scatter-brained, it's probably something I'd forget). He made a HUGE mistake: he remembered when he was a couple miles down the road, but didn't turn back. A cop pulled him over, he lied and said he paid, but they had him on camera and he was arrested. First and ONLY time he's been arrested. He doesn't do drugs, he doesn't constantly drink (he's gotten drunk like twice and not around me) and he has a 4.0 GPA. He's the only guy that I know would live up to my parent's (well my mom's) standards. Every guy I've dated has been immature, I paid for movies and gas, etc. They didn't have jobs or good grades and none knew what they were doing with their life. HE does. And he wants to take me on a real date, which I've never been on. My parents told me I can't see him because he got arrested; they called him a liar and a thief (stole gas?). One of my friends has been arrested twice, but they don't care if I hang out with him. They keep me from hanging out with certain people, which ALL are my friends. It's not fair! I'm going to college in a year, they can't keep me from the world! What can I do? I don't want to sneak behind their backs anymore, I want them to like him as much as I do, he's such a great guy, who made a mistake. Plus, if it wasn't for me, he wouldn't have made it. Thanks
Rxwoman Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Is being arrested really the only reason they don't allow you to see him? I have a daughter too. I know it bites now, and you think your parents are unfair. But they're doing what they think is in your best interest. How about you? Are you doing all the things you're supposed to be at 17? Are you going to school, getting good grades, and staying away from drugs and alcohol? If you are, I would say try talking to your folks. Say, " mom, dad, I doing all the things I"m supposed to do. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't lie or steal, and I get excellent grades. ( boy's name) is responsible, and he's gets straight A's as well as holds down a job. would you atleast give him a chance to prove he's not a bum? " See if you can talk them into inviting him over for a bit to get to know him better and make a good impression. I'd give that a try.
Author purplepanda Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Yes that is their reason. I've gotten in a lot of trouble about lying but they always figure out the truth. I don't drink or smoke or anything drugs. I stay at home pretty much 24/7, until I met up with that guy to hang out. They mentioned something about not bringing him home from the start, but I was with someone else at the time, so I couldn't do that...plus we were friends with benefits, but we're more now.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 For your own sake, and the sake of your future, you neeeeeeed to wean yourself away from this guy!!!! Can't you see the contrast in your personalities? He stole gas, and by your own admission, you "paid for gas". A "4.00" student gets arrested for theft... Either stop messing around with this guy immediately or pull up a chair, and build up a network here at LS to support you through this first chapter of your love/relationship future.
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