Nexus One Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 It's not a crying from sadness smiley, silly. It's a laughing so hard you're crying smiley. I know, but I thought perhaps you were laughing so hard at what I said it brought you tears...or something like that. So I thought perhaps you misinterpreted what I said.
pureinheart Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Speaking of rings, and buying them, and having people buy them, here's something I've never understood. Why do women "want" specific kinds of rings? I mean, most women don't pick out a ring, do they? How does a guy know what to pick out? Are people really sending their boyfriend's like pictures of the ring they'd like, the same way I used to circle toys in the Toys R Us catalog when I was a kid? If you are about to marry a person, or asking, most know the taste of the one they are going to spend the rest of their lives with. I like dainty jewelry and that is priddy much what every bf has purchased for me. Men are very intelligent, that one is a no brainer for them.
AverageJoe Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 If I were to get married I would prefer a real woman over a fake woman that may value such trivial items more than the relationship itself.
Sanman Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Banker Chick, I definitely agree with others that you should do what you and your So prefer. Not what others tell you to do. The truth is that you not wanting one makes them look petty for wanting it, thus they prefer you play along. I find engagement rings to be a bit outdated anyway. You two will be partners soon, why should you guys spend a significant amount of money on something neither of you wants? Go on a vacation or use the money some other way you both prefer. I liked Somedude81's idea of a sapphire engagement ring. You already have one people seem to like. Perhaps a ruby or other precious stone otherwise. Sidenote: I love that fact there is no equivalent gift for a man at engagement. Apparently, men have to show a woman how important she is with a large and expensive ring. Yet, women do not need to do anything to prove their love. If a woman asks the man to marry her, does she just buy her own engagement ring?
Stung Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Speaking of rings, and buying them, and having people buy them, here's something I've never understood. Why do women "want" specific kinds of rings? I mean, most women don't pick out a ring, do they? How does a guy know what to pick out? Are people really sending their boyfriend's like pictures of the ring they'd like, the same way I used to circle toys in the Toys R Us catalog when I was a kid? If you are about to marry a person, or asking, most know the taste of the one they are going to spend the rest of their lives with. I like dainty jewelry and that is priddy much what every bf has purchased for me. Men are very intelligent, that one is a no brainer for them. My husband knows my taste well enough to know that he can't match it. If I were interested in standard cuts or settings, I guess it would be easier, but I like artisan-made jewelry with individualized touches. I am a jewelry-as-art person, and my husband has the linear mind of an engineer. When we decided to marry, he asked me to tell him what I wanted. We talked about not liking diamonds, and I caught him researching metals and gems online, which was quite sweet. He decided he wanted the ring made in platinum, as it would be more durable and lasting that way--the symbolism mattered to him. I did send him some pictures of kinds of rings I liked, because he asked me to. We went shopping together, and I surprised myself by picking something more classic than I thought I would, although I tweaked the design a little with the jeweler. When the ring was made he picked it up on the sly and proposed again, putting a ring on my finger that time. Sidenote: I love that fact there is no equivalent gift for a man at engagement. Apparently, men have to show a woman how important she is with a large and expensive ring. Yet, women do not need to do anything to prove their love. If a woman asks the man to marry her, does she just buy her own engagement ring? It's not widespread, but there are companies that specialize in male engagement rings. Also, I know women who paid for their own ring, or half. My now-husband and I are not typical in this, but we already had joint bank accounts before we got married, so we both paid for my ring. I would have been happy to get him some equivalent symbol but he wasn't interested, he just wanted to move on to designing the wedding rings.
chrissylee Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I don't really believe in marriage, but if I was to ever get engaged I don't think I would want an expensive ring. I would never want someone to spend that much money on me for just a ring. If I was to get married I would be just fine with a fake ring. For me the ring would be more about the promise of us getting married and my SO loving me, then it would be about showing off an expensive diamond.
musemaj11 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Why do women have to squabble over something so useless as a ring? Why not just use the money to go on a vacation or something?
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