Cee Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I have been dating someone for two weeks now. We met at a meetup group and he got my number and called for coffee. We have done coffee and some group outings since. He has met some of my friends and they laughed a lot together. We were intimate this weekend and I spent the night. It felt special and comfortable. He made me tea in the morning and I left so he and I could do stuff apart. Then we watched the Superbowl together with a group and cuddled a bit while watching the game. He left the game before me to get to bed early. I said good bye and had fun with my friends watching the game. We don't have a next date set in stone, but we have been making tentative plans for the week. He is easygoing so if I want to do something, he usually says yes. I don't feel the need to pin him down to plans. He's available and I don't worry. Well, I worry a little, but that's based on past dating mistakes. I like him and find him extremely attractive and intelligent. But I don't feel in love with him. I'm in like. And I want to know more. I'm taking things as it comes. There's my "boring" update. I haven't done boring before and it feels wonderful.
daphne Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I don't think it's boring. I think it's stable. He sounds consistent, so he's not keeping you on your toes with games or other women. It gets better, if you're up for it. My best relationship was like that.
bayouboi Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I feel sorry for this "boring" guy. Sounds like you need abuse and drama to be "in love" with someone.
Author Cee Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 Actually, I was tongue in cheek about boring. This dating thing is the opposite of boring for me. I'm am very much interested in what will happen. And he's not boring- he's intelligent, sexy, hilarious, creative, and really good looking. But there is nothing to agonize about on LS. Nothing to process. Nothing to analyze. He is direct and stable. And so am I. It's good to not be in an infatuation fantasy. I don't feel crazy or insecure like I have in the past. It feels appropriate for the level of intimacy we have. I think I could fall hard for this guy, but not yet. It's too soon. I can understand why people who are content don't post on LS much. There isn't much to say.
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I can understand why people who are content don't post on LS much. There isn't much to say. Very true. Those of us not starting threads usually don't have a question, as everything is going just fine. But we still stick around - it's addicting!
Gettingtired Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Things sound good Cee. SG is right, I love this forum. Each poster is such a character, has so much experience and insight into things. Some of the threads I read are inspiring and so informative. I read things and I'm like "oh yeah that's right" or "wow, that reply was awesome, how helpful and supportive" or what ever. LONG LIVE LS!!!!!!!!!
daphne Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 But there is nothing to agonize about on LS. Nothing to process. Nothing to analyze. He is direct and stable. And so am I. It's good to not be in an infatuation fantasy. I think I may really, really hate you right now. lol. I hope it works out and keeps being a good thing. Best of luck. On another note, did anyone notice how 2 people mention more positive things about the thread, and boom. There's a guy that swoops in and starts with the negativity crap with a lot of assumptions about the OP? What is it with the crazies on this forum? Could they possibly get any darker?
bayouboi Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 On another note, did anyone notice how 2 people mention more positive things about the thread, and boom. There's a guy that swoops in and starts with the negativity crap with a lot of assumptions about the OP? What is it with the crazies on this forum? Could they possibly get any darker? You're right, I focussed on the part where the OP said: "But I don't feel in love with him." And took it to the conclusion that hasn't happened yet. I'll wait and check back in on the break up thread to say I told you so.
dispatch3d Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I think I may really, really hate you right now. lol. I hope it works out and keeps being a good thing. Best of luck. On another note, did anyone notice how 2 people mention more positive things about the thread, and boom. There's a guy that swoops in and starts with the negativity crap with a lot of assumptions about the OP? What is it with the crazies on this forum? Could they possibly get any darker? Wow way to be the pessimistic emo kid to ruin the happy thread. I was going to put up a bat signal to OG to fix this thing. see what I did there.... ahhhhh!!! The fact these even exist is a huge difference in LS. I'd bet 2 months ago there were none of these threads.
Author Cee Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 You're right, I focussed on the part where the OP said: "But I don't feel in love with him." And took it to the conclusion that hasn't happened yet. I'll wait and check back in on the break up thread to say I told you so. Please, do check back. Although, the break up thread is going to be very sad. There are reasons we may not last and my feelings for him aren't the reason. But I'm not thinking about the break up. I'm applying a more mindful approach to dating. It's about living in the present. And the present is pretty good, at this precise moment.
zengirl Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 That sounds lovely, and not boring at all. Thanks for sharing.
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 You're right, I focussed on the part where the OP said: "But I don't feel in love with him." And took it to the conclusion that hasn't happened yet. I'll wait and check back in on the break up thread to say I told you so. It's been a mere 2 weeks. If she was in love already, that'd be a bigger concern, IMO.
tigressA Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Sounds like you're having a great time! Very happy for you
Crazy Magnet Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Boring is nice. Most of the time my R is fairly boring and I have little to post about. And hopefully you won't be back with a break-up thread.
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