ONCRN1975 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I am a divorced man of one year now. My situation is atypical in the sense that the process was completely amicable without drama or children involved. I remain good friends with my ex-wife. We share custody of our dogs and casually text from time to time. In a very brief synopsis our communication essentially fell apart. We would bicker about insignificant transpirings and just didnt enjoy each others company anymore. There was absolutely no abuse of any kind or infidelity. My problem is this. What I miss terribly is the companionship of marriage. I miss the simple routines and the friendship of it all. I fear at my age, 35, I will not find what I am searching for again. I sometimes feel I blew my chance and will not get another one. I have tried on-line dating with misrealble results. I am not a religious man. The women I work with are too young. The odds are against me...and to make matters worse, I am picky. I compare everyone I meet to my ex-wife and people just dont hold my interest in the way that she did when we first met. I lie awake with a pit in my stomach sometimes from being lonely. There is NO chance of a reconciliation with my ex and I am at peace with that, I just fear my time will not ever come again. I realize I am not the only who struggles with post divorce relationships. I wonder if anyone out there has any suggestions or stories of their own to share regarding these matters.
bslchump Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I know a ton of people who have happily been remarried well into their 40's. My parents were divorced and then both remarried at around age 38. I seriously don't think that you have much to be concerned about. 35 is not very old, so you have absolutely plenty of time to date around, especially if you're picky. Try a few online dating profiles for fun. See if any girls message you who would be what you're looking for. Maybe strike up a friendship with them and see where it leads. I don't think at your age you should be worried about never finding anyone. There are so many people out there your age and above in exactly the same situation. Try not to take dating so seriously. Don't look at potential mates as "can I spend the rest of my life with them?" because you will be unhappy. Instead, enjoy the moment for what it is and see where it leads. Things change and you have plenty of time to see where they take you.
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