xsuki000 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years+. We were initially a non-LDR and we would see each other everyday, pretty much from the time I got up I would go over to his house, to the end of the day, I would go home. When it was time for college to start, I made the dumb and not so dumb decision to go to a school 6 hours away. I have about 10 more months of school left (spring quarter, summer school and fall quarter) but I'm finding it harder and harder to concentrate. I used to put all my efforts into school to cope with not having him here but now I find that school is the thing that seems to make coping hard. Like I can sit here and watch videos on youtube all day and not miss him but when I have to sit here and study, all I want to do is think about him and then I can't study, I just want to sleep or do something else. I was wondering if anyone has any tips on how I could concentrate and get myself to study. I kind of gave up earlier and just told myself to try my best and do the work and get through the quarter but I'd really like to be able to get myself to buckle down and get good grades like I've been doing.
madjac74 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 It kinda sounds like your boyfriend isnt really the issue if you can do certain things and not think about him. Everything I do I think about and miss my girlfriend especially listening to music on youtube because so many songs remind me of her. Do you think its possible that you just arent in to what you are studying and thats why you cant focus? I know in college there are a lot of times you have to take courses that dont interest you or dont relate to what you want to do just because they are required and that causes a lot of people to lose focus
Author xsuki000 Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 Well what i've noticed is that when he is online, i usually have less trouble studying but once he logs off, then I just want to go to sleep. I think it has to do with the fact that when I'm home, I study while he does other stuff like play video games or sleep but when we're long distance, if he's sleeping he's logged off instead of right next to me. So I think it does have a little to do with him.
Author xsuki000 Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 And I mean I used to stay up all night to finish assignments or to study for exams because I'm more awake at night but now I'd rather sleep and wake up to study (he's an early sleeper and early waker).
madjac74 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I actually know what you mean! I do a lot of art and writing late at night and I have noticed I can focus more just knowing I can look at her and know she is there rather than not getting texts from her and knowing she is likely sleeping but not being able to just see her. It is so frustrating. You end up trying to picture them and totally realize you arent focused on what you are doing. I don't have a great solution to this because Im feeling it right now thats why Im on here when I should be working on my projects
folieadeux Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 The worst thing for me to do is listen to music when I'm missing my boyfriend...it makes everything ten times more difficult. If it was me, I would definitely stay away from music related videos on YT and either watch something else on the computer or on the TV if you need some sort of background noise to do your homework to. Maybe try organizing a study session with some friends?
TMichaels Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 xsuki000, Welcome to LS. Why not look at ace-ing your classes as something that will *ensure* you'll be able to be together with him *as soon as possible* -- as if you don't buckle down you're increasing the chance of not being able to be with him FOR MORE than 10 months if you end up having to repeat or re-take some of your coursework. HTH, TMichaels
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