smudge21 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 So many heart breaking threads around here so thought it would nice to get some positive in relation to second chances, sort of. Basically that time when the ex comes crawling back and now you, as the dumpee, have the power. How have you dealt with it and what have you done. One time, I bumped into an ex who had hurt me very bad a year earlier. No two ways about it, I was lost for a good six months over this girl, but once over her I saw her dark side and realised it was for the best. We met up and went for a coffee, just as friends (used to work together). It was a nice hour, just chatting. Then at the end I got up to leave and she offered her phone number. I said no thanks, but was nice seeing you again. And left. I walked out, leaving her looking shocked. It felt so good as all those feelings of wanting her so much as I did back then had been long gone. There was nothing. I could tell through the whole meeting that she was interested but I just laughed it off, which made her more interested. Then to walk away felt so good. It made me strong. It was the final closure to a relationship that had hurt me so much. I can remember how I felt back then and so know that even in my current circumstance, that I will be there again.
NeNinja Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I've posted this story elsewhere on the LS but I think it fits in this thread too: "My ex girlfriend and I broke up ~a month ago. I haven't seen her and have had very minimal contact. I have run into one of her friends on two out of three 'dates' with a girl I met the week after we broke up. (It's nothing serious, she knows nothing is going to happen.) Tonight we (the new girl and I) were in the town where my ex lives at a mutual friends birthday party. At the bar we picked up where we had left off talking and flirting a little/lot. Long story short, my ex ended up at the same bar with some of her friends about an hour later. About five minutes later we made eye contact and I did what came naturally: I smiled at her and gave a little shrug. She came over to the booth the 'new girl' and I were sitting in with a few other people. I was on the outside so we could talk pretty easily. We exchanged the basic hello's and what are you up to's. Nothing too shocking until... She said your hair has gotten long (it had almost always been buzzed while we were dating)...and proceeded to run her fingers through it grab a handful right in front of the 'new girl' and her friends. Was she making a play? marking her territory? I completely surprised myself when she did this. I turned and looked at her so she had to let go and said, "Haaaave you met Julie? (The new girl)" Her jaw hit the floor. We said our goodbye's and have a goodnight's pretty quickly after that and she and her friends were out of the bar in the next ten minutes."
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