brneyedgrl Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 So for those of you who don't know my story my ex and I were together for 6 years when he decided a month ago that this was no longer what he wanted. We've been living together since then but with our schedules and him being mia most of the past 3 weeks, I have managed to keep NC for three weeks. I've managed to build myself back up a little and force myself to realize I'm better off and I will thrive being on my own. I really have nothing more to say to him and am ready to move on with my life but tomorrow I will have no choice but to see him. My move day is Tuesday and he is moving out tomorrow, he wrote me today asking if I needed his help and that he would be more than glad to move my heavy things. I told him I had plenty of help but thanks anyway however I do need help cleaning our place thoroughly before we have to turn in our keys Tuesday night. He said he'd absolutely help and he would see me tomorrow. I am worried about holding myself together in front of him, I'm worried this might set me two steps back but either way we are going to have to have contact before we vacate. How do I keep the anger, resentment, love and missing him feeling from re-surfacing?????
GreenPolicy Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I had to see my ex when she contacted me THREE MONTHS after our b/u to get her bike back. I put on a brave face and was pleasant and courteous. Don't rehash the past or the b/u, don't make inquiries into their current doings. Keep your chin up and stick your chest out with your head held up high. Don't give them any kind of inkling that you have been hurt and suffering. Allow yourself the need to cry and bawl your eyes out after it's over. Just make sure that no matter what you maintain your composure and poise in front of your ex.
Author brneyedgrl Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 @GreenPolicy - Wow 3 months? That would certainly stir up a lot of emotions. How did you manage to not let the feelings come rushing back in? I'm so afraid all the progress I've made is going to go right out the window when I see his face tonight. I've definitely got my moments of strength and confidence but this is all still very fresh I'm not sure how to keep composure.
GreenPolicy Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 @GreenPolicy - Wow 3 months? That would certainly stir up a lot of emotions. How did you manage to not let the feelings come rushing back in? I'm so afraid all the progress I've made is going to go right out the window when I see his face tonight. I've definitely got my moments of strength and confidence but this is all still very fresh I'm not sure how to keep composure. So much time had passed that I thought she was never going to attempt to collect her bike. It was hard. It was very sad and weird. It felt like there was this invisible plane between us, and it sucked knowing that it was going to be the last time we ever saw or spoke to one another most likely. I was actually more agitated than sad right after it was over. I could tell that she was glad to see me, but it hurt. But I was pleasant and courteous. DO NOT let them see how much you have been hurting. Hold your head up high. You can go to pieces when he leaves, but maintain your poise in front of him.
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