just_some_guy Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Reached an agreement this week at the courthouse settlement conference. A few days later, she's now browbeating me for more. It was her offer I agreed to, which honestly, I cannot see how she can accomplish relocating out of state in 90 days without already having a place to go and a plan to get there. She's getting a significant amount of money. Her lawyer's forensic accountant agreed completely with the numbers my lawyer's forensic accountant produced four months ago as to what is and isn't community property. I will end up with more, because it is not all community property. However, she is significantly wealthier than she was when we got married. It's not enough retire on, but it is more than enough to buy outright a very nice home in most of the USA and have 6 figures left over. But she's demanding more. Not based on anything, no facts, no error of math or accounting, or even any particular need for more money. I think it is fear, since now the end is fixed and real and coming and she has to be on her own two feet. I'm glad I have gotten a lot of counseling and therapy over the last year. I can at least, say no to her now. I think I would have felt guilty and given in the past. But there's no reason to, it's a nice settlement and I'm buying out her share of the house and doing a support buyout so she gets a lump sum. Just don't get it, I really don't.
willowthewisp Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 My guess is that before now she was too afraid to ask you for what she really needs.
carhill Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Hey, if she signed the MSA she can pound sand
iheartboobs Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 **** her, guy. She signed the agreement and you signed the agreement, so she can go to hell. You're done with that bitch. Seriously. **** her.
worldgonewrong Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Hey, if she signed the MSA she can pound sand "Pound sand" is one of my favorite expressions! cheers!
Author just_some_guy Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 She hasn't actually signed yet. This was the settlement officer conference at the courthouse, where a court officer makes the lawyers hammer out an agreement. If I understand, if she doesn't sign, a judge will order a default judgement.
carhill Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 (edited) A default judgment occurs in a non-contested divorce. If your divorce is contested, meaning the respondent has filed a legal response to the petitioner's filing, then a judge will decide the disposition, if the parties cannot reach agreement, based on the relevant law and facts of the case and that judgment will be binding. In the future, your offer, should you make another one, should be contingent upon her signature *at that moment*. I can't believe your lawyer didn't do that. Don't have a settlement conference without all parties attending, ostensibly to settle *at that moment*. I would have fired my lawyer for that mistake. Who's the petitioner? As an example, my exW and I used the non-contested (uncontested) with MSA route, leaving the 'specifics' of the property/debt involved 'to be determined' in the initial FL100. We mediated the settlement and petitioned the court for a default judgment based upon that MSA and requested judgment by mail. Never went to court. Edited February 8, 2011 by carhill
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