IrishHeartrn Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Well for starters I am twenty one years old, and most of you would think thats party time for me but it's not. I am a very responsible person and I am a full time nurse. I started dating my boyfriend six months ago and things just don't seem right. He has a 18 month old baby who is adorable and I love spending time with, and he has full costody. When we first started dating we would spend time together as much as possible and since he lived with his parents, I always welcomed the baby into my home. I was working 11pm to 7am at the time and it was complicated so I eventually changed my schedule to 7am to 3pm to better suit our needs. Now the relationship has gone down hill, at least I think so because we only see each other once a week! (which is usually when the kids mother decides to see him) We I bring up the issue of spending time together he complains that it is my fault because I don't go to his house and he has a kid so he can't do anything. Granted I do not go to his house, but that is because I work, go to school, and he lives with his parents which makes me uncomfotable the way they treat him...I would rather he come to my place where the baby has toys, dipers, and anything he needs and we can be ourselves. When I continue to push the matter his excuse is the weather that he can't take his son out into the cold...mind you from a nurses perspective to keep him inside ALL the time is not heathy for the immune system. Now I understand that no parent wants to see their child sick, its no fun for anyone but I just dont see that as a justifiable reason. If you have eerons to run you don't just 'not' do it, you wrap your child up, warm the car and go on with your life WITH you child. Another problem we have is he tends to throw the baby in my face, "well im sorry I have a kid" any time I confront him on something where he can use that line. We never go out together, EVER! I have even tried to do baby friendly things and that is even hard to get him to do. Out of the six months we have been together we have gone out and done 'couple like' things twice and it was for his birthday. I am seriously at the end of my rope. I love him with all my heart and want this to work but I don't know what else to do. Advice please!
daphne Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I briefly dated a man with 2 kids. I wasn't cut out for it. He would make excuses for his behavior by saying he had kids. Even though thtye had nothing to do with it. He would make excuses for not being available, when he didn't have the kids. He was a busy guy though. I ended up not being interested in him for other reasons, but I would think twice if I were you at your age to consider taking on that kind of baggage. You're so young! Have fun and experience some freedom. Find a guy that has the time and energy to put you first until you have your own kids. I know that's not the political correct answer, but it's what I would suggest to anyone your age.
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