Lovesucks79 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 ok well here is my story. My ex and I met and things were great. We have a lot in common and we really complimented eachother. We had some ups and downs.... Major ones for her were... Attacking me, verbally and physically, she lied about an ex boyfriend that she ended up sleeping with early in the relationship. I forgave her and moved on from it... Si9nce it was so early i didnt really concern myself with it too much plus everyone can make a mistake and I know this so i try to look at it in a positive light. Anyways we are together for a few months and she informs me she is pregnant.. I ask her if she wants to keep it and she says yes after I told her I am in it for the long haul. Now obviously I brought up the abuse for a reason. One day about 3 years into the relationship she was really being verbally abusive and called my dead grandfather a stupid (racist word used towards chinese people) so I got revenge and talked to some girl on the street. I was in such a bad mood that I was happy to talk to her and all the sudden I get busted for talking to a prostitute... Apparantly it was an undercover cop and she lied about what was said. I wanted to tell my girlfriend so bad but she was so mean to me i didnt think she would believe me so she ended up finding out and hates me for it now even though i really didnt do anything wrong I should have told her and not have her find out for herself. Onto now everything was going great and I thought i had been forgiven but she says she cant look at me the same anymore and wants to move away with our daughter. I let her go because I didnt think it would be good for my daughter. Onto now she tells me that we will never be together again and i should move on. So i ask her if she is seeing anyone. She lies for months about it and then my daughter tells me she is holding hands and kissing this new guy. I am pissed but what i really want to know is this... 1) Is she rebounding? 2) If she is lying to me about it but says she has no feelings for me anymore and wants nothing for me why is she lying about it? She already broke my heart so how can it be hard.... does she still have feelings for me or am i reading too much into it... she constantly makes this guy seem like just a friend so its hard to know if she is serious about it or not. Anyhelp would be great Thanks
gator12 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Right now, you must assume everything she is telling you is the truth, because she really has no reason to lie to you, and thinking that she is can only backfire on you. NC is the way to go here, if this guy is a rebound it will work in your favor and you fighting it will only hurt any chance of you guys getting back together. You guys however had a very troubled relationship, so I suggest while in NC working on your issues, and that if you guys get back together you keep the lines of communication open. If you don't, then the same problems will creep up again and ruin your second chance. Until that point you go into NC, as long as she's in another relationship there is nothing you can do at the moment.
Recommended Posts