LondonS Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 you caught him sending nude pictures to another girl on the same website that you two had met? Little bit history: Great first date, 10 out of 10 guy texts right away to set the second date, behaves like a complete gentleman and all that good stuff. without going into detail, the girl somehow finds him desperatly trying to get another girl to have sex with him and sending her his naked pictures, on their very first chat. wonders of online dating Please keep to this question folks, thanks in anticipation x
SmileFace Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I really want to know the detail. With anticipation. I will go on the second date. What he does at this point with "other" girls at this point isn't actually your business. Shrugs.. I'm indifferent. I mean what he did isn't illegal or disgusting.
Author LondonS Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Just to add: I am pretty cool and indifferent really, I just am curious to what everyone else thinks about this....
Nexus One Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 In my opinion people should do whatever makes them happy, as long as they don't hurt anybody. However if a girl/woman would pull that on me I would no longer consider her potential girlfriend material. Because you just don't pull that kind of behavior around a potential boyfriend, it lacks respect.
Author LondonS Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 so shall I now pull a dissapearing act on him and be gone in thin air? ( shame though we clicked and were so compatible in many ways, oh well )
Jannah Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 so shall I now pull a dissapearing act on him and be gone in thin air? ( shame though we clicked and were so compatible in many ways, oh well ) Tell him the truth. Several years ago a guy that I met and exchanged phone numbers with sent me a photo of his penis via text and then proceeded to ask me out. WTF? I simply said..."after you sent me a photo of your penis, I'm thinking...no".
oaks Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 without going into detail, the girl somehow finds him desperatly trying to get another girl to have sex with him and sending her his naked pictures, on their very first chat. I wonder how the girl found this out. It makes me think there's more to this story...
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I wonder how the girl found this out. It makes me think there's more to this story... Me too... I really want to hear the rest
zengirl Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 He isn't dating material at that point, in my opinion. Whether we had fun or not wouldn't be the point --- that would highlight an area where I found his character and values incompatible with mine.
Author LondonS Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 sorry if I was to post anymore details, I had done so in my OP. so the verdict is No second date so far...Cool !!
O'Malley Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 You can be grateful that he revealed his shortcomings so early on (though apparently not directly to you), before any serious feelings developed.
Author LondonS Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 You can be grateful that he revealed his shortcomings so early on (though apparently not directly to you)' date=' before any serious feelings developed. [/quote'] I can only but thank my lucky stars as with me he was pretending to be a complete gentleman, very sophisticated...just to match my league !
Eeyore79 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I would be totally turned off. If he thinks it's ok to send naked photos of himself to a girl he doesn't know,and would have sex with a virtual stranger, then we aren't compatible. Plus if he wanted to see me again he should be focused on that, not on some other girl. He would not get a second date with me, not even if Hell froze over.
NeptunedIN Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 If years of dating have taught me anything about learning to see red flags....big fat NO on this one. His behavior reeks of insecurity, seeking validation in unhealthy ways, secrecy, not a good foot to start out on. These issuers are deep and not indicative of someone who is capable of a healthy relationship (with himself for that matter). If he's already doing this now in the courtship phase, you are in for one bumpy ride. He's entitled to do anything he wants right now, but is this what YOU want? I hate to judge, but again, years of experience would say that I wouldn't be surprised if you caught this one cheating on you later down the road and you'll be back on here posting about it.
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