Good friends gf came onto me, should I tell him?

[fedupfeelinglikethis]

Ok last night at a party a good friends gf came onto me several times, I also seen her trying to kiss another friend and he was having to turn his head away from her as she was being very persistent. Her boyfriend had decided to go home earlier in the night so was not there when this was all taking place. Now usually I would tell him straight away but she was the most drunk I have ever seen her, they have been together for 3 years, live together and this is the only time I have seen her act anything like this. Should I tell him? Is it worth the risk of there relationship ending when nothing actually happened with any one and she was so drunk she probably can't even remember it.

[seibert253]

Should you tell him: YES.

 

Nothing else need be said.

[PratyekaYana]

Regardless of her drunken actions arguably not leading to anything incriminating, I still feel it necessary that you tell your good friend what happened that night. The events of the party could be symptomatic of something in his significant other of which he should be wary.

 

Is it worth the risk of there relationship ending...

 

Don't assume this burden. If the relationship is at all put into jeopardy because of this information being revealed, then it is the result of her actions, not your demonstration of loyalty to your friend.

[PegNosePete]

Yes if my GF was trying to cop off with random dudes at a party, I would like to be told. Wouldn't you?

[carhill]

CW says tell, but also consider the power of the woman in the R. It's a great way to get thrown under the bus. BTDT, but loved the alcoholic friend enough to tell her H and pay the price. I've also tried talking with the person themselves, in other circumstance, with mixed results.

 

One suggestion is a cellphone video to go with disclosure. Undeniable proof. Sometimes, when love and mates are involved, people do odd things. Good luck

[Cee]

The GF has signs of alcoholism. You can tell the boyfriend to create consequences. Or you keep silent. In the end, it doesn't matter. Do what's right for you. Take care of yourself because you can't help your friend or his GF.

 

What's really sad about this is if the girlfriend does have a problem, the boyfriend "knows" about it already and is in a codependent relationship.

 

This might end the friendship, but if it does, you are better off.

 

As for it being an isolated incident, that's what every alcoholic says. I've heard people say: "I've only had one DUI."

 

Sorry for the disjointed post. I could write a novel on this, but I wanted to throw out some food for thought.

[Eddie Edirol]

Tell your friend just in case he might suspect something....

[Bryanp]

If the roles were reversed and you were the boyfriend, wouldn't you want someone to tell you?

[fedupfeelinglikethis]

Thanks for the advice people think I already knew the answer but it is one conversation I'm not looking forward to!! @ carhill, I don't have a clue what u where going on about and @cee, she's not an alcoholic it was a night out every one there was drunk she had just had a bit too much.

[fltc]

..she had just had a bit too much.

 

Alcohol does NOT make you do anything you didn't want to do, it only relaxes your inhibitions. She kissed or tried to kiss those guys because she WANTED to.

 

Possibly she and your friend are having problems? Maybe she's looking around? Who knows, but alcohol is not an excuse.