Woggle Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 With all these games being played and talk of chasing and being chased and all that other crap is there anybody out there that still believes in meeting somebody you like and growing a relationship from there? Does anybody believing getting to know each other and treating each other well once you do?
SmileFace Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 *raises hand* I have no intention of playing games with anyone. I don't understand all the chasing and not chasing. If I like somone they would know. If they are showing me that they do not like me I am gone.
sweetjasmine Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Does anybody believing getting to know each other and treating each other well once you do? I do. I'm in a healthy relationship and I love it. I wouldn't have it any other way. Some days, one of us will get on the other's nerves and sometimes we'll have minor breakdowns in communication, but we've both put a lot of effort into stepping back and dealing with those kinds of situations in a good way instead of escalating it. We treat each other well and love and respect each other. We have disagreements and discussions, but we don't really argue. We've never called each other names or thrown out insults or "shut up." We both make an effort to listen to the other and consider and validate the other's feelings. We're definitely not perfect, but I value every day I wake up next to him, and there's nowhere else I'd rather be and no one else I'd rather be with.
waynebrady Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Yes, I do. All the women on here who talk about how things never work out because the man leaves as soon as they reciprocate intrest and they need to play hard to get and as soon as they stop the man leaves. Need to understand that those men are NOT after normal, healthy relationships. If all men acted that way, then NO RELATIONSHIPS WOULD EVER DEVELOP. Sorry for the caps but I feel thats so obvious it needs to get through to these women. Think about it, if your relationships always fail when you reciprocates intrest and all men act that way then how would normal relationships ever develop? They obviously wouldn't if all men acted that way, and that would result in the eventual death of mankind.
Leeway Harris Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 What do you mean by "believing in" this? Do I believe it exists? I guess logically I do. I've heard of healthy relationships, but I've never really seen one up close before. My parents didn't have one, that's probably part of the problem. If I "play games" I don't mean to. I have a very thick shell I've built up around myself, and I keep myself so isolated that I've forgotten what it's like to feel attracted to someone. I don't think of it as a game, it's more that I'm terrified of being hurt.
catgotyourtongue Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 With all these games being played and talk of chasing and being chased and all that other crap is there anybody out there that still believes in meeting somebody you like and growing a relationship from there? Does anybody believing getting to know each other and treating each other well once you do? yes Woggle I do. I am so sick of drama, games, baggage, etc. Sick of my own and others. When I am ready to date, I will be eager to find a healthy, nurturing, two way, giving relationship, with less drama, bs and stupid nonsense. LOL. I am hesitant at best to dip into the dating pool again because it has been hard to find healthy, rational people to date. The more grown up I get, the less grown up my dates seem to be. The less drama I bring in, the more they seem to add -backwards hah? When I was drama queen and crazy-acting, the men were more stable and decent, and solid. Now that I am grown up and rational, they are just not ready or capable. I was a mess for a while, then I got my act together more or less, and find messy people too often. yes some of us crave something healthy and real.
zengirl Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 With all these games being played and talk of chasing and being chased and all that other crap is there anybody out there that still believes in meeting somebody you like and growing a relationship from there? Does anybody believing getting to know each other and treating each other well once you do? Yes. This would describe the relationship between myself and my BF.
daphne Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Yes, I do. All the women on here who talk about how things never work out because the man leaves as soon as they reciprocate intrest and they need to play hard to get and as soon as they stop the man leaves. Need to understand that those men are NOT after normal, healthy relationships. If all men acted that way, then NO RELATIONSHIPS WOULD EVER DEVELOP. Sorry for the caps but I feel thats so obvious it needs to get through to these women. Think about it, if your relationships always fail when you reciprocates intrest and all men act that way then how would normal relationships ever develop? They obviously wouldn't if all men acted that way, and that would result in the eventual death of mankind. omg. Why don't you copy and paste it so you can add it to any future threads you decide to respond to?
daphne Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I do. They're the most fun and light hearted. But even they did not begin without some small drama of misunderstanding somewhere in the beginning. And I know very few of my female friends who don't complain of the same.
waynebrady Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 omg. Why don't you copy and paste it so you can add it to any future threads you decide to respond to? Sure. Aslong as you and all other women claim that all men hate it when women show intrest in them and leaves asap as soon as the woman stop playing hard to get. I will post that. If what you all seem to be claiming is true then normal healthy relationships would never develop. Honestly, it's just an excuse invented by you women because it's YOU who love playing games. It's you who love to play hard to get and act aloof and disintrested.
waynebrady Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I do. They're the most fun and light hearted. But even they did not begin without some small drama of misunderstanding somewhere in the beginning. And I know very few of my female friends who don't complain of the same. The Drama is usually caused by women because you are the ones playing games, not men.
Eeyore79 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I believe in healthy relationships! I've seen some among friends my age, and it's so nice when two people are obviously in love and in a stable relationship. I just want a nice attractive man to be with me and treat me properly; I've never been one for playing games, and I hated it when people played games with me. If I like someone, I act like it, and I expect the same from them. I will admit that I've been in some unhealthy relationships because my people-picker was broken; I was messed up and had no idea how to choose someone for a healthy relationship. I think I've fixed that now, and I'm in a lovely relationship with a nice man
Macaw Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 *raises hand* At the first sign of being played on I raise a red flag and give out a warning. The second time it happens, it's game over.
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 The Drama is usually caused by women because you are the ones playing games, not men. Exactly........
Macaw Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Exactly........ Disagree. Being a guy myself, I know it comes from both sides of the fence. Some women are only interested in you when you're not interested in them, and the reverse is also true. Thankfully, those people aren't keepers, so you can save yourself the drama and move on.
waynebrady Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Disagree. Being a guy myself, I know it comes from both sides of the fence. Some women are only interested in you when you're not interested in them, and the reverse is also true. Thankfully, those people aren't keepers, so you can save yourself the drama and move on. Thats not in the female nature, so I doubt that. Women never get intrested in a man "first", its takes effort and convincing by the man to even get them intrested at all. It takes work to get a woman even slightly intrested. I think this is because it's not in the female nature to like men, atleast thats the best explanation I can come up with.
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Disagree. Being a guy myself, I know it comes from both sides of the fence. Some women are only interested in you when you're not interested in them, and the reverse is also true. Thankfully, those people aren't keepers, so you can save yourself the drama and move on. I wasn't serious. I usually reply that to all his ridiculous comments.
Macaw Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Thats not in the female nature, so I doubt that. Women never get intrested in a man "first", its takes effort and convincing by the man to even get them intrested at all. It takes work to get a woman even slightly intrested. I think this is because it's not in the female nature to like men, atleast thats the best explanation I can come up with. I can't help but feel like I'm being trolled.
zengirl Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I can't help but feel like I'm being trolled. That's just the way waynebrady rolls. You'll get used to it after a few threads. I think you basically got it right, Macaw, when you described behaviors from people of both genders that illustrate how not worth it those people are.
waynebrady Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I can't help but feel like I'm being trolled. Meh yeah you got slightly trolled in the last paragraph. But theres no denying that women never get intrested in a man first. Therefore this statement isn't true. "Some women are only interested in you when you're not interested in them, and the reverse is also true." Women don't work that way... They don't get intrested in men without the man being intrested first and working to get her intrested.
daphne Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I can't help but feel like I'm being trolled. :lmao: Join the club. He just gets a little tunnelvision in his thinking. But yes, I do believe he thinks this way.
impz Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 With all these games being played and talk of chasing and being chased and all that other crap is there anybody out there that still believes in meeting somebody you like and growing a relationship from there? Does anybody believing getting to know each other and treating each other well once you do? Me. I am in a healthy marriage and relationship, in love with the most wonderful woman in the world. This woman never ceases to remind me why I love her so much and want to pinch her at the same time. Just ask all happily married couples, you know you are happy when you smile while hoping to kick her butt (figuratively). Lol, waynebrady can be generally ignored. He just didn't get enough treasure "O" for a while.
allina Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I like healthy relationships. I love the relationship I have with my husband. I like him and value him as a person in addition to loving him as my hubby. He's someone that always has and always will have my back, and I his. I have a low bullsh*t and drama tolerance level, it's not something I allow in my life.
lino Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I like them and I think I may be having one for the first time ever. It's still early days though, so I shouldn't say too much & jinx it! With the amount of headcases around these days, a healthy relationship is very, very hard to form.
Cee Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Me, me, me. Craving a healthy relationship. At the moment I am seeing a healthy guy. We've only been dating a couple of weeks so it's way to soon to know if it will become a deep relationship. And I consider that really healthy. Living day by day. There's not a lot of intensity, but there is good communication and mutual respect. And our first level of compatibility is at the intellectual/communication level. He's lovely to look at, but even better to listen to. I hope it lasts, but if it doesn't, I'll survive. What will be will be.
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