nowwhatnow Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 yesterday my friend told me that her ex bf - who treater her horribly during the break up - ran into her. she saw him the next day and he basically begged for her back. we basically got dumped 2 months apart by our ex bf's and she kept in contact with him and he was horrible and they seemed like they had nothing in comparison to the love i have/had for my ex. and i know i should be happy or whatever for her but it just makes me so jealous. when will it be my turn?!?
Eddie Edirol Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 It wont be your turn, and you want it that way. The way your friend is going, that guy will dump her again and again, and she will basically torture herself. You want to live like that? Your ex is doing you a favor.
AgeOfUninnocence Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 It wont be your turn, and you want it that way. The way your friend is going, that guy will dump her again and again, and she will basically torture herself. You want to live like that? Your ex is doing you a favor. Can't say I completely agree with that. My friend's boyfriend cheated on her, and she was so upset with him. He had absolutely no excuse for that behavior, but she forgave him, and he was ready to buy her a ring to make it up to her (mind you, they'd only knew each other/been dating for 4 months at that point). She said he didn't have to, but they're basically engaged, planning out their next holidays and birthdays and houses and kids names and telling each other they'll love each other until the day they die... Another friend of mine had some kind of huge argument with her boyfriend of 3 months. They shouted a lot of harsh words at each other and they were both very upset. She told him that he'd hurt her a lot, and she didn't know how she could believe and trust him again. He got down on one knee and told her he wanted to marry her, and that he wouldn't be going anywhere. Now they're engaged. I also have another friend whose boyfriend dumped her because he needed some time to figure stuff out, and they've had so many fights, but he doesn't want to lose her. If she starts talking to another guy, he starts freaking out. As for my ex? It's been a year, and it doesn't matter how many guys I club with or get drunk with or anything. He dumped me and just doesn't care, even though we never had any issues in the actual relationship. He won't even answer my phonecalls now, when I'm not even calling to talk about the relationship, but moreso calling about music and common interests and whatnot. So yeah. nowwhatnow, I totally understand how you feel. And I don't have anything comforting to say about it, except know you're not alone. It really sucks when you see yourself surrounded by friends being able to work it out when they're in worse places than you, and yet you yourself are the one that nobody wanted to put back the effort into trying.
0hpenelope Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Don't compare yourself to other people, OP. You're just going to drive yourself crazy. It's different for everyone and yes, your friend and her second chance can either be a break-up/make up or a reconciliation. Focus on yourself. Hang in there.
Author nowwhatnow Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 wow AgeOfUninnocence you really do know exactly what i am going through. its not that i am trying to feel this way or remain in this state of waiting and wanting. it just is. and thanks for the words of encouragement!
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