shellen Posted March 24, 2004 Posted March 24, 2004 I came across this thread when someone mentioned that feeling jealous does not mean you still love the person. I thought feeling jealous is a consequent of still loving someone. I mean if you do not like the person romantically anymore, you would not feel jealous when he or she has a new partner right? Hmmm....what do you guys think?
Tony T Posted March 24, 2004 Posted March 24, 2004 If you truly love somebody, you will not be jealous. You will want them doing what makes them happy and being with a person who they are happy with. As a matter of fact, if you really love someone and they break up with you, you will actually feel very good knowing that you have freed your beloved to find happiness where they may. That feeling you describe is more akin to selfishness, wanting to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you. It's rather stupid but idiotic human beings who haven't evolved past that stage are likely to feel that way. It's rare that humans mature to the point where they don't bludgeon themselves with thoughts that make them feel bad. It's pretty nuts, not to mention the fact that most people who think they love somebody don't really love the person at all...but rather love themselves so much they think they have a right to the other person. It's sick.
Arabess Posted March 24, 2004 Posted March 24, 2004 I actually wrote that in a thread. In that case, I was stating a person can be jealous (such as seeing an Ex with another person years later) and MISTAKE it for hidden heart love. In this case, the ex of over 3 years is getting married. The poster was not married yet and really wants to be. I suggested there was a possibility she may be feeling more 'jealousy' than 'love'. The two can get easily confused. Other than that, I agree with you in that jealousy is generally a consequence of love. Even in this situation it was the case. Originally, love was certainly there. However, I do think jealousy can mask itself as love. A person can be experiencing jealousy, think they want an Ex back...rather than remembering why they broke up in the first place. It's a human emotion.
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