Mixed28 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I have talked to many people about their first relationship and most say they were clingy and smothering and it drove their gf/bf away. Now people say an ex is an ex for a reason but what if the couple were very compatible but one of them was just clingy due to it being their first relationship. Obviously they are an ex for being clingy but it was their first relationship and they (hopefully) have learned from this experience and have moved on. However this is a good example of life not being fare. If say the knowledge you required from the break you new before dating the person things would probably be different (possibly assuming the relationship was pretty stable). I feel people who are clingy in their first relationship and get dumped for it and learn from it did not get a real shot with that person.
2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 When I met my now ex GF we agreed to take it slow we both were limited in the amount of RLs we had and she hated rushing things etc. A few months into the RL things were going good she started flaking out and said you expect too much and all that and since then we have just drifted apart with some chat here and there so yeah I did learn that I was maybe too clingy. I think I got her on an off week and instead of me accepting she wanted to stay in or whatever I took it as rejection and her not wanting too meet up any more. I do think she had external issues however and that she wouldn't tell me - she was like that, very shy quiet and withdrawn and was more comfortable with her family and friends and think she wants to stay that way oh well her loss. 2011
Author Mixed28 Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Yup it is her loss. Hope you learned a lot, I sure did. My ex was not super introverted though she was in the middle.
2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 When I met my now ex GF we agreed to take it slow we both were limited in the amount of RLs we had and she hated rushing things etc. A few months into the RL things were going good she started flaking out and said you expect too much and all that and since then we have just drifted apart with some chat here and there so yeah I did learn that I was maybe too clingy. I think I got her on an off week and instead of me accepting she wanted to stay in or whatever I took it as rejection and her not wanting too meet up any more. I do think she had external issues however and that she wouldn't tell me - she was like that, very shy quiet and withdrawn and was more comfortable with her family and friends and think she wants to stay that way oh well her loss. 2011
Author Mixed28 Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 I have been told though if they really cared about the relationship they would have asked to tone it down.
depplover_1980 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I'm afraid it's just tough love and life lessons. Just give each relationship you decide to commit to the best you have with the knowledge you possess at that time; as long as you do this you can hold your head up high. Stop being too hard on yourselves in general.
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