salsal01 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Hi all, I have been seeing my partner for 10 months, he stays in Edinburgh and I stay in a place called Dumbarton, its only 80 miles or 1 and a half hours in the car, so compared with most other long distance relationshipsit not that far at all. I met him on a chat line, we used to chat for hours when my husband was out at the football or at some other thing with his friends, I was using chat lines as a form of conversation as myself and my husband had very little to talk about, we were unable to have children and this I guess took a toll on our relationship, anyhoo.... I ended up meeting chat line guy before I had finished with my husband, we seemed to click, now I am not proud of what I have done in any manner of the word, I feel that I need some sort of direction, I do not believe in god and that seems to be the only way to get my morals back on track... I went of course there !!! my problem is that I have had sex with 5 men one being my ex, and one was a one night stand no sorry two were a one night stand, and two men who I have had sex with more than that !!!! The guy that I am seeing I found out that he was talking texting other women, now to give him his place he has always stated that he does not want a long term relationship...we did discuss an open relationship when I found out that he was in contact with other women, mainly as a way of protecting myself...how messed up is that statement I know I know !! well I tried to end the relationship on Wed but he was having none of it, not in a bad way but more in the way that he could not handle the fact that we would never see each other again. I ened up telling him last night when he was through at mine that I had slept with other men, in a way hoping that he would want to go home, but instead he cried now I am 37 and he is 44 so we are not stupid kids although yes I know that is exactly how I am acting, please I need help and I don't know where to turn, and I know that I am a sorry excuse for a human being
sammyd Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 So to clarify, you're married, and seeing another guy that you tried to finish with? I'm not understanding your post.
Author salsal01 Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 yes I am still married, I left my husband when I met this guy, not to think for one min that it would have lasted this long, I have a problem, a real problem, and I don't know what to do about it!! I have fallen back into old patterns with this new guy, I had been using chat lines as i mentioned and I did meet men for casual no penetrative sex, it was exciting at the time, but with this guy I am doing it to protect myself I guess, I know I am just a complete and utter tart, I know that what I am doing is completely wrong and immoral
Spiral70 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 What do you want help with exactly? You're both wanting to see other people, so that's pretty equal, what's the problem?
folieadeux Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I'm beyond confused. You're still legally married, seeing this other guy, and other men at the same time? Leave him out of the equation and get your life on track. What do YOU want to do?
Author salsal01 Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 he does not seem to think that talking/texting other women is a problem other than financially for him, he has no idea as to what it has done to our relationship, I want to be with someone and with them only, I have tried to end my relationship
Spiral70 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Are you saying he shouldn't text other women but it's ok for you to have sex with other men? he does not seem to think that talking/texting other women is a problem other than financially for him, he has no idea as to what it has done to our relationship, I want to be with someone and with them only, I have tried to end my relationship
Omei Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 yes I am still married, I left my husband when I met this guy, not to think for one min that it would have lasted this long, I have a problem, a real problem, and I don't know what to do about it!! I have fallen back into old patterns with this new guy, I had been using chat lines as i mentioned and I did meet men for casual no penetrative sex, it was exciting at the time, but with this guy I am doing it to protect myself I guess, I know I am just a complete and utter tart, I know that what I am doing is completely wrong and immoral I think you should stop with anyone you are with now, Let them go be happy with someone who will not be as a mess as you make yourself sound, Get a divorce, take some time to yourself do some self searching and then think about men later.
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