Adi Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Just a question, has any one here, broke up with a ex, and they just slept around for a month or two, and if so is this normal. And could you ever go back too them if you loved each other, but they slept around ?
fun2bewith Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 (edited) Just a question, has any one here, broke up with a ex, and they just slept around for a month or two, and if so is this normal. And could you ever go back too them if you loved each other, but they slept around ? Adi: It is not so much the act that bothers me, but the emotional connection and baggadge that comes with it... If you are going to ask these questions, you must be prepared for the answers....and it might make you sad... Listen it all depends how you view their actions... If you see their actions as dirty, unrespectful and all the negative things then you will be dissapointed and feel like you have to lower your self respect. I would encourage you to look at the positive side: 1) It is not always the case that exes sleep around but when they do, look at the bright side, it means that they can't find someone like you and they are trying to validate themselves maybe even trying to find an identity again.. 2) It was a form of healing themselves and trying to convince themselves that they don't need you for a fun time... 3) If I had to take my ex back after she slept around, it will have to be after she is at least one year clean from sleeping around. 4) The only negative thing that I would be happy with is the result of her STD tests.... Edited February 6, 2011 by fun2bewith
pandagirl Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I think it's normal. I know a couple who broke up for three months, and during that time, each slept with other people. It's been years since their reconciliation, and now they're married and expecting a baby. I remember my friend saying to him: "God, you were such a slut!" But she wasn't mad.
flow15 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Its completely normal. Especially for men, as they can have sex with girls and not get emotionally attached. Its like a natural instinct for men to have to spread their seed.... I wouldn't worry about it. As long as they practiced safe sex, you shouldnt worry. When my ex split up with me he slept around, and when he came back he said that having sex with the other girls was like masturbating.. and that with me it was like magic. So it doesn't mean that it meant anything to them.
richbad08 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 My ex did the same thing. She makes it sound like sex isn't a big deal. Sounds slutty when a girl says it but at the same time I was sleeping around too and I cant have double standards. My question is it worse doing it with friends or just randoms?
flow15 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 My ex did the same thing. She makes it sound like sex isn't a big deal. Sounds slutty when a girl says it but at the same time I was sleeping around too and I cant have double standards. My question is it worse doing it with friends or just randoms? I think its worse doing it with friends! At least a random you never have to see again, but your friends you see all the time. I don't know how people can just have casual sex with friends?!
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