fong_li Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 is it really true that some women tends to like 'bad boys'? and why is that?
Disillusioned Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Get a DVD of "Bonnie & Clyde" and watch it. There's your answer.
Pyro Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 thank you for starting this thread. This kind of topic needs to be discussed more often around here. As for the women that like "bad boys" (depending on your definition of the term) they are usually the younger, immature, and naive ones who need the drama and game playing in order to feel valued and accepted by these guys. They don't go for the kind and considerate guys yet because they aren't mature enough to realize that is the type of guy that you can build a life with and will be respected by. Some of those women will eventually grow up and see the light while the rest will live on with the constant drama and heartache.
phineas Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Last woman I was seeing was 39 & still needed the drama. She had a long history of dating complete jerk-offs that treated her badly & used her for sex. And she blamed them completely. Despite the fact she was hot, I wasn't interested in dateing her. My indifference however made her literally throw herself at me. so I stupidly said what the heck. But, because i'm not the kind of guy that makes a woman earn validation through sex she lost interest & tried making me her emotional tampon. I ignored her, she came at me again, I took things further but backed off when she said no. She lost interest again. The kind of guys she goes for basically tell her she can either stay for sex or leave. I wound up just slamming the door hard on her. While the sex would of been good, the drama wouldn't of been worth it. I just can't be that type of guy.
Nexus One Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 (edited) I saw a test once on tv. It wasn't particularly scientific, but it was remarkable nevertheless. A reporter went into a school with two sets of photo's. One set showed guys of the "bad boy type". Those photo's showed the type of guys that other guys would immediately recognize as aggressive. The other set of photo's showed kind looking guys, some intelligent looking, some looking like hipsters, some average neutral looking. Now what the reporter did was have the girls of the entire school be divided in groups based on grades. So girls with low grades were in one group and girls with high grades were in the other. And then he made the girls in the groups point at the set of photo's they found contained the most attractive guys. And with a hit ratio of 100% the girls with the low grades chose the set of photo's with the bad boys and the girls with high grades chose the other set. I guess many people have their prejudices regarding these kind of things, but in this case they seemed to get confirmed. Now this wasn't a scientific test by a long shot, so the results might have been skewed. Nevertheless it looked like a pretty straight forward experiment, which I found remarkable, because it actually confirmed a stereotype and prejudice that many people seem to have. Edited February 6, 2011 by Nexus One
Seamless74 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 (edited) thank you for starting this thread. This kind of topic needs to be discussed more often around here.would have to respectfully disagree I think this particular topic has been discussed ad naseaum on this forum... I think it really should be restated that girls on the whole like "cool guys" not necessarily bad boys.. and cool guys all seem to have certain traits the degree to which these must be exhibited in order to attract a particular female is just a matter of individual preference. In other words Pamela Anderson type needs Tommy Lee.. The stripper type needs Charlie Sheen, the formerly abused, confused, low self esteem girl needs the abusive type that reminds her of her abusive father... And maybe most importantly the last girl that you fancied that chose the supposed "bad boy" over you last time might just have decided that you didnt take action fast enough, or you had no style, or maybe didnt think it was that cool that you spent all your time playing world of warcraft... who knows.... but what i do know is you dont have to be a "bad boy" To get the women most of us desire around here you just have to be a "cool guy" Edited February 6, 2011 by Seamless74
waynebrady Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Women usually get pissed off when you say they like bad boys who treat them like dirt. But then they proceed to say all men like too chase and likes it when the woman plays them around Honestly none of em' are true in all cases.
depplover_1980 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 The 'bad boys' can be appealing because they have a certain confidence, albeit borderlining on cocky but that can be sexy. These guys are often dynamite in bed, which can hook the girl in and give her some temporary esteem. I think the word drama has already been mentioned? From a personal level it would not be the drama that attracts me to this type of man but the thrill of the chase - some women, like men are highly sexed and have an instinct to track their prey!! Overall though bad boys for flings and solid guys for relationships.
alethean Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I have a lot of friends who do and then they wonder why their relationships are dysfunctional. Um...duh. Now quit making fun of me for being interested in "squares."
Questionis Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Unless, you are a bad boy yourself, there is no need to trouble yourself with these women.
NeptunedIN Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I think Pyro nailed it on the head. I think there is a correlation with maturity and attraction to "bad boys" and that not all women are necessarily mature or grow away from this attraction.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Nexus one's example gets closest to the truth. Look at this in terms of evolution. There were two overall strategies for survival. One relied heavily on brutish strength...essentially the same strategy that dinosaurs used. The other relied on inventiveness and inteligence. Some women were attracted to brutish guys who solved their survival problems using brute force. i.e. Neanderthal men who hunted with heavy thrusting spears and technology that was static for 250,000 years. Other women were attracted to guys who solved problems by inventing new tools. i.e. our collective ancestors who figured out that a lighter spear could be thrown from a safe distance....which lead to the bow and arrow...then to the gun... As nexus one's example points out there are women who are primally attracted to stupid "bad boys". Then there are women who are attracted to inteligent guys. Notice no women are attracted to men who are just plain weak. That said consider what happens to the children of women who choose neanderthals in the long run. They don't last. Question In the bad boy Vs nice guy dichotomy were Albert Einstein and Mohandas Ghandi Bad boys or nice guys?
deebeechrisyo Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Go read TheDirty.com, and you will see what types of women like "bad boys". If you want to be like these types of guys, well, I dread the future of our country. And whoever said bad boys are often dynamite in bed, from what I've heard it's the exact opposite. Most of these guys are minute men, or display a highly aggressive behavior to compensate for a small wang. Maybe the girls are just telling me this because the guys never called them back.
Pyro Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 would have to respectfully disagree I think this particular topic has been discussed ad naseaum on this forum... FTR I was being heavily sarcastic. This, men height threads, and gender wars all need to be canned. There are SO many of each on here that anyone can search for and read on.
Pfiend101 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Yes. The answer is yes. It doesnt make sense but yes.
Kaplan Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Question In the bad boy Vs nice guy dichotomy were Albert Einstein and Mohandas Ghandi Bad boys or nice guys? Are you kidding me? Ghandi was a notorious criminal. He spent half his life in prison.
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