waynebrady Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Ok, if a woman plays hard to get. When does it end? And how does the relationship look after the playing is done? I kinda have this thing were I really doub't that it will ever end if a woman plays hard to get from the beggining. It will always be an inbalance in love, affection and so on, in the womans favor... Atleast thats what I think. So tell me, I'm asking the women here. How long do you play hard to get? After you quit playing hard to get how does it work then? Do you suddenly start to openly show intrest and initiate affection and calls, texts etc etc? Or is it just a matter of instead of being unavailable on purpose you now make youself available more often and thats it? As a guy it's frustrating because I kinda don't find this narsicisstic princessy "make him work to get you" type personality attractive... like at all. But if I knew it would end eventually and the there would be some reciprocation somewere down the line it might be worth it. But I'm not gonna over humilate myself and endlessly chase a woman and always have the lower-hand in a relationship... thats just emasculating.
daphne Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I don't think that pursuing a woman is going to give you the lifetime lower hand. WOmen tend to play hard to get to ensure your intentions are sincere towards her. I think your'e forgetting that. So she's qualifying you, of sorts. To see if you're in it for the right reasons, in it to stay, etc. You're going to have to figure out how to trust yourself in being able to weed out the girls who are selfish and those who are going to reciprocate. See how they treat their friends and talk about exes. That'll give you some indication.
mo mo Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I don't think that pursuing a woman is going to give you the lifetime lower hand. WOmen tend to play hard to get to ensure your intentions are sincere towards her. I think your'e forgetting that. So she's qualifying you, of sorts. To see if you're in it for the right reasons, in it to stay, etc. You're going to have to figure out how to trust yourself in being able to weed out the girls who are selfish and those who are going to reciprocate. See how they treat their friends and talk about exes. That'll give you some indication. This. I would just like to add that if she plays the "hard to get game" to the point that she says and does ridiculous things, then go ahead and move on. For instance, let's say you know the woman for months and she seems level-headed. She tells you about some stuff that an ex doesn't do and/or things she would like in an ideal relationship. Then when you are officially kicking it to her she starts acting aloof when you show her you can be the man she wants you to be, or she decides she doesn't need to respond to phone calls, after you've talked regularly at work, school, wherever for months. In those situations, the women are taking the game too far. If a guy has known her for months and decides to pursue her after all that, she has already passed his tests and he is sincerely interested.
Alma Mobley Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Wow, you are asking a real question! I am so shocked that I have not formulated an answer... I thought this was all about how women hate sex and never want to be with men or something! I will have to reread the OP after I am over being shocked about the real question...
Alma Mobley Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 As a guy it's frustrating because I kinda don't find this narsicisstic princessy "make him work to get you" type personality attractiv Oh wait... nevermind. I started to type a real answer, but then I read this. Sounds like you are not interested in dating women, just hating on them.
Author waynebrady Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Oh wait... nevermind. I started to type a real answer, but then I read this. Sounds like you are not interested in dating women, just hating on them. So I hate women Because I don't want a princessy selfish woman who thinks I should do everything for her? I want a normal woman. Who reciprocates my intrest in her(atleast after a while). I have noticed that when men say they don't like women who plays games with them or makes them chase her for and endless amount of time and never gets any affection back in return... Women are quick to brand them as misogynistic women haters. Please, maybe you are the kind of princessy type woman which I described and find it dissapointing that most self respecting men don't find that behavior attractive.
hydorclops Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Some people play hard to get as a way to exercise power and control. But when they win, and get the interest they were after, they are disappointed. It's completely predictable. They want a strong partner. After they've dominated the other person, it's hard to see them as strong any more. People say they are trying to protect themselves by this, but the protection is simply power and control. I think there are other models to follow.
daphne Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 So I hate women Because I don't want a princessy selfish woman who thinks I should do everything for her? I want a normal woman. Who reciprocates my intrest in her(atleast after a while). I have noticed that when men say they don't like women who plays games with them or makes them chase her for and endless amount of time and never gets any affection back in return... Women are quick to brand them as misogynistic women haters. Please, maybe you are the kind of princessy type woman which I described and find it dissapointing that most self respecting men don't find that behavior attractive. Wayne, I don't mean to be unkind, but I think you don't realize how you come across. You do come across as deeply angry at women. In a hateful way. I think I see through that as someone who is very hurt, but it still comes across as very angry. I think until you start to trust yourself more, and look at things more positively you will continue to harbor deep resentments towards women which will prevent you from finding that which I think you are ultimately seeking. A good woman to love you. You are not powerless. But when you think that way, you'll make it so.
Author waynebrady Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Wayne, I don't mean to be unkind, but I think you don't realize how you come across. You do come across as deeply angry at women. In a hateful way. I think I see through that as someone who is very hurt, but it still comes across as very angry. I think until you start to trust yourself more, and look at things more positively you will continue to harbor deep resentments towards women which will prevent you from finding that which I think you are ultimately seeking. A good woman to love you. You are not powerless. But when you think that way, you'll make it so. I'll admit I get annoyed and frustrated sometimes from what I see women say. Though I guess I'm sure alot of women get annoyed by the things men say. In alot of my previous posts, while I did mean what I say in the core of it... I did exagerate. Just out of frustration and because I honestly want to get proven wrong. I wish women were the exact opposite of what I write about them I don't hate women. But I don't think you realise how it looks from my point of view as a man when I see women write things such as "it's better if the man loves the woman more than she loves him"(this has made me honestly believe that it is literally impossible for a woman to love as much as a man) or "make him work to get you" this just comes of as extremley princessy, I'm a guy I'll try to impress you and I am a gentleman but if you don't like me from the beggining I'm not gonna waste months or years trying to win you over. or "don't call him, wait for him to call you" alright maybe the first weeks... But it sure would get boring fast after that if I noticed I was always the one initating contact and making plans.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Wayne... You have to realize that the whole "make sure he loves you more than you love him". Or "Men need to make more money and be dominant"... attitude really boils down to one universal truth. The people who say such things are petty and insecure. They say what they say, and do what they do so that they will not get hurt. Run away from them as relationship partners.
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