richbad08 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Someone please give me an insight on her mindset. So after we dated for 2 years she broke up with me last september. She said we were drifting apart. Ok so I gave her space. At first we kept in contact like once or twice a week the first 3 months we were broken up ( I soon realized this was a mistake because I couldn't handle "being friends" with her). Before we both decided to do NC she said we shouldn't talk anymore. I agreed. So we were both doing NC and like 2 weeks later she texted me but i ignored her. She would send 1 text per day and I wouldn't reply and a couple days later she would just say hey and I still wouldn't reply. Finally she send another text and she sounded really desperate to talk so I texted back and asked what she wanted. She says she wants to friends and she misses me and its hard for her to not have me in her life, but what I don't understand is I know she's talking to other guys and im sure they keep her company so why doesn't she leave me alone after she said we shouldn't talk? Does this mean her guy friends don't mean anything to her or she wants to string me along or whats the deal?
Google1000 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 JUST IGNORE HER! Do NOT give her what she wants. Period. Ignore her, ignore her, and then ignore her again.
Author richbad08 Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Iam but my question is why does she really want to be friends? I even told her last time we talked over the phone that keeping in contact doesn't benefit either of us. She doesn't listen. I really do ignore but I just don't understand what she is thinking.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Iam but my question is why does she really want to be friends? I even told her last time we talked over the phone that keeping in contact doesn't benefit either of us. She doesn't listen. I really do ignore but I just don't understand what she is thinking. its because the guys she is dating now arent giving her emotional support as a bf. They just see her as flings and she has no one to connect with, and she wants to reconnect with you as an emotional friend, not as romantic. Thats all she misses, but it isnt you that she misses. So ignore her, she will keep trying because the guys are leaving her empty and she will never move backwards to you. Keep ignoring her. If she wants you back, she has to work alot harder than that.
2sunny Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 it's because she's selfish and wants her ego feed - and she hopes you are weak and vulnerable enough to provide it for her.
Author richbad08 Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Oh wow. being there as just a friend isn't what I want. Nor being there to boost her ego that would have her getting best of both worlds. I guess I should really make her miss me more and stick to NC. I just wouldn't know when the right time to talk to her would be. Or when she would really want me back if she does.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Oh wow. being there as just a friend isn't what I want. Nor being there to boost her ego that would have her getting best of both worlds. I guess I should really make her miss me more and stick to NC. I just wouldn't know when the right time to talk to her would be. Or when she would really want me back if she does. There IS no right time, there never is when they dont want you. You will know they want you when they come out and say "I miss you, can we try again". It rarely happens, but when it does, you know they are serious. But even then, they lost enough attraction to you to dump you in the first place, you dont want someone who wants to reconcile just because they are lonely.
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