gsmatch Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 This might be a long post. My ex, let's call him Jim, and I met approximately five years ago. We both had the same tennis coach, well after knowing him a year he asked me out and it lasted for three and a half years. We went to different high schools, but it never truly mattered because we were always either playing tennis together or traveling to a tournament together. By the time we entered college we had already been together for quite awhile, and we decided to enter a long distance relationship. Neither of us were that hesitant because we knew that we could make it work. We spent spring break, winter break, and summer break together. I traveled with his family to Italy. I have always been extremely close to his relatives. So, in September his parents told him that they were all moving. We were not quite sure if we could make a long distance relationship work when we were not coming back to the same town on vacations. In the end, we broke up. We still talk, and I still talk to his parents occasionally. I am wondering if we made a mistake by breaking up, and not trying to pursue the relationship. When we did end things I was not a fan of having to travel hours by plane, or sixteen hours by car just to visit him. However, it is now February and I am still missing him. Those hours are becoming less and less relevant, because I have discovered that I would rather be with him long distance than not be with him at all. So, I'm not really sure where to go from here. Back in November, a few months after we broke up and a day before he left for Idaho, we spent a few hours together. He literally cried saying that he could not believe that he had to leave the love of his life. I am not sure what I would do in his situation, but I just wanted him to figure something out -- move out, or something. I know that in realty that is asking a lot, so I didn't ask him to do anything. We just went our separate ways. We talked last week and he wants me to visit for spring break. I truly want to, but I was hoping to see what other people thought. His parents have asked me several times to come visit as well. Help?
Author gsmatch Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Oh, I forgot! About a week after we broke up he was in another relationship and then he called me when he broke up with her. I asked why he was telling me all of this, and he said the only reason he was dating her was because he missed me so much and did not want to be alone. Their relationship lasted a few days at most.
Author gsmatch Posted February 9, 2011 Author Posted February 9, 2011 (edited) Any ideas of what I should do? We have talked a few times this week. He was the one that initiated all of the texts/calls, and I was the one to end them eventually. Edited February 9, 2011 by gsmatch
azulcosa Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Any possibility you could move down closer to him?
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