Author daphne Posted February 17, 2011 Author Posted February 17, 2011 (edited) Oh well. Your loss. You can ignore us, but if you play games, you will continue to attract men who also play games. Like attracts like. Good luck. You are clearly not a self aware person. Suggesting that if I do other than what you recommend, or that I will get something negative is extremely manipulative. Edited February 17, 2011 by daphne
waynebrady Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 That was uncalled for. We may not agree, but this does not make me a troll (which, BTW doesn't mean "someone who has a different opinion to yourself"). As a man, I'm simply trying to clue you in on how men actually think as opposed to relying on age old cliches with no real basis in reality. And how does calling for honesty make me "manipulative" (particularly coming from an advocate of playing mind games)? And where does superstition come into this exactly?? :s Anyway, sorry for trying to help. Continue as you are, it's obviously working out wonderfully for you. Women like her are like that. If you disagree with her you are a troll and a misogynist obviously... Women don't want to hear that not all men appriciate the princessy behavior and "me me me" attitude. They want to hear that all men love to chase, that all men love to worhsip women and put them on a pedestal and do all the work without getting anything back.
nemesite Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Quite. It's clear to me that the OP started this thread because she wanted validation for her prissy behaviour and has simply ignored/blocked everyone whose disagreed with her or called them names. Basically the internet equivalent of putting your hands over your ears and shouting "LALALALA! I can't hear you!" Charming.
sumdude Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Being a bit of a challenge is not a bad thing. For either a man or woman. But if you take it too far and play too hard to get.. well then you won't be 'gotten' by anyone. Sure you may have some guys who hang on as the back burner guys. But you probably have no intention of dating them anyway. So in a way you might just be leading them because why? A confident man who is genuinely interested and keeps getting the hard to get act will eventually go looking elsewhere once he feels it's going nowhere for too long. If there is very little coming back in return why bother? Not going to bang his head against the wall for no reason.
Kamille Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 This study focuses mainly on online dating sites so isn't a terribly reliable measure on the dynamics of real life interactions between men and women. WTF? So these women thought that the men who paid them the most attention didn't actually like them, and were more attracted to the ones who were unsure? Here's how I understand the research: The 47 women were divided into three groups. One group was told 4 men liked them: the women felt attraction to these men. One group was told the 4 men found them average: these women didn't feel attraction to these men. Another group was told "these men could potentially be attracted to you but we're not sure. Maybe they don't like you": the element of uncertainty meant that these women were extremely attracted to (intrigued by?) these men.
Author daphne Posted February 18, 2011 Author Posted February 18, 2011 Being a bit of a challenge is not a bad thing. For either a man or woman. But if you take it too far and play too hard to get.. well then you won't be 'gotten' by anyone. Sure you may have some guys who hang on as the back burner guys. But you probably have no intention of dating them anyway. So in a way you might just be leading them because why? A confident man who is genuinely interested and keeps getting the hard to get act will eventually go looking elsewhere once he feels it's going nowhere for too long. If there is very little coming back in return why bother? Not going to bang his head against the wall for no reason. I agree. I like when a guy doesn't show all of his cards too early. Gives him a little edge that keeps me interested. No one wants to know that they already "have" someone. I think it would be somewhat hard to be hard to get with online dating. It really works better in situations where you are going to see people on a semi regular basis. You get to know each other as friends, they like you as a person and you can work the magic. So for now, I just don't let them think they have me. Because that is a recipe for being taken for granted. And if they get too far down teh road and slap their heads and circle back around, I am done.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 quite simple really just be urself....every man is different though most like a chase(itz an innate animal instinct). there is usually a happy medium
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