tiger20 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 (edited) How often should men buy gifts for their girlfriends? I'm thinking that 2-3 months after they become boyfriend/girlfriend he should buy her a gift. It can be flowers and/or a funny card. Then after that he should wait 5 months to buy her 2 dozen roses. Mix up the colors. Some pink, some blue, some yellow, some red, some purple, etc. If the relationship continues then he should buy her a gift once every 5-8 months. I'd say this is a good rule to follow assuming that there have been no red flags in the relationship. What do you think? How often should a guy buy gifts for his girlfriend? Edited February 5, 2011 by tiger20
Pyro Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 as often as he pleases and whenever he chooses. Not to the point of desperation, but me personally I enjoy surprising my SO.
Author tiger20 Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 Are apology token gifts a good idea? What do you think? I say no.
czen Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Are apology token gifts a good idea? What do you think? I say no. I'd say no too. I would interpret it as "okay, we had a fight, here take this and be happy. I don't want to spend any more energy into solving this matter". I'd say you should only give gifts on special occasions: B-day, Valentine's day, aenniversaries, etc. Just to show that you remember these dates and that they're important to you. I wouldn't give gifts during other moments, I would do something special with her now and then though, like taking her a weekend away so you two can be together during that time without anyone else. I think doing things like that mean more than giving gifts, as they require more effort and are more romantic.
elastica Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 How often should men buy gifts for their girlfriends? I'm thinking that 2-3 months after they become boyfriend/girlfriend he should buy her a gift. It can be flowers and/or a funny card. Then after that he should wait 5 months to buy her 2 dozen roses. Mix up the colors. Some pink, some blue, some yellow, some red, some purple, etc. If the relationship continues then he should buy her a gift once every 5-8 months. I'd say this is a good rule to follow assuming that there have been no red flags in the relationship. What do you think? How often should a guy buy gifts for his girlfriend? Every time he wants sex. :laugh: Your threads are so funny!
Lovelybird Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 V-day, christmas, New year, B-day, make-up gift, good moods...
oaks Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Then after that he should wait 5 months to buy her 2 dozen roses. Mix up the colors. Some pink, some blue, some yellow, some red, some purple, etc. If the relationship continues then he should buy her a gift once every 5-8 months. You should wait until her interest level has fallen by exactly 3.3% and then buy chocolates.
TryingToMoveOn Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 You should wait until her interest level has fallen by exactly 3.3% and then buy chocolates. I disagree. The magic number is 6.9%.
Citizen Erased Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Only when she's angry about something. ^^ This......
Mad Max Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 -Birthday -Valentine's Day -Christmas -Anniversary
Titania22 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I would have loved gifts in my relationships, however I was sadly disappointed in both LTR's, and even this last 2wk bf/gf things, no gifts while in the label, generous gifts again when he was free of the label. I think it would be awesome and romantic to have token proof that the guy I was seeing actually thought about me when we are apart. I notice in myself, that when I was happy in my relationships, I was constantly noticing things they might like. Like "that shirt would look good on him, imma pick that up" and the such like. Of course it did create imbalance when it became expected that I would pay for everything and that sucked.
zengirl Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I think people (men or women) should buy gifts as often as they like, as long as it's not suffocating or strange (a gift at every date would weird most people out, for instance). Nobody should buy gifts out of obligation, though if it's a holiday, it's best to discuss whether you'll exchange gifts or not. Generally speaking, I think it'd be rude not to get something for a birthday or Christmas, if you're doing an exchange. My BF tends to pay for more of our outings, and I tend to pick up more small gifts for him. I've had other BFs who bought me more small gifts. I notice my BF is more likely to buy me something when we're out and he notices something I like/am going to buy myself. He's very thoughtful but not a great "gift giver" (holidays are fine, because he gets hints and asks questions). Which is fine because I don't need lots of little things to know he's thinking about me. I'd rather just have him send me a sweet text/give me a call if he's thinking about me. FWIW, we agreed on no VD gifts. We did exchange Christmas gifts, and I would expect a birthday gift. I got him a birthday gift as well. I don't believe in frequent anniversaries. For our year-long anniversary, if we make it, I'd want us to plan a trip together or do something fun to celebrate it, but gifts seem unneccesary.
musemaj11 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I would have loved gifts in my relationships, however I was sadly disappointed in both LTR's, and even this last 2wk bf/gf things, no gifts while in the label, generous gifts again when he was free of the label. I think it would be awesome and romantic to have token proof that the guy I was seeing actually thought about me when we are apart. I notice in myself, that when I was happy in my relationships, I was constantly noticing things they might like. Like "that shirt would look good on him, imma pick that up" and the such like. Of course it did create imbalance when it became expected that I would pay for everything and that sucked. Be as generous as your partner. If you are a giver, look for a giver. Being a giver sucks because you are vulnerable from getting taken advantage of by leeches.
Titania22 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Be as generous as your partner. If you are a giver, look for a giver. Being a giver sucks because you are vulnerable from getting taken advantage of by leeches. Thanks musemaj11, You've got me introspective now, and thinking about my friends. And I do tend to keep friends (women and now 1 man) that will spontaneously give me gifts randomly as the mood strikes them. I don't think I reciprocate very often, but my girlfriend insists I am very generous. I however must be pretty blind to my own generosity, because I can only think of a few examples. My friends must be getting something from being friends with me, because they all seem determined to keep me around. Maybe what they get is something that isn't material in nature.
musemaj11 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Thanks musemaj11, You've got me introspective now, and thinking about my friends. And I do tend to keep friends (women and now 1 man) that will spontaneously give me gifts randomly as the mood strikes them. I don't think I reciprocate very often, but my girlfriend insists I am very generous. I however must be pretty blind to my own generosity, because I can only think of a few examples. My friends must be getting something from being friends with me, because they all seem determined to keep me around. Maybe what they get is something that isn't material in nature. Personally Im a very generous person. Its just my personality. This is why Im extremely distrustful of people especially women because once I let someone into my life, Im going to give that person everything I have to offer. Also I notice that all my closest friends are givers themselves. Im someone who will be friends with anyone but I guess unconsciously I have been filtering in friends who are the most like me in terms of personality.
Titania22 Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 Personally Im a very generous person. Its just my personality. This is why Im extremely distrustful of people especially women because once I let someone into my life, Im going to give that person everything I have to offer. Also I notice that all my closest friends are givers themselves. Im someone who will be friends with anyone but I guess unconsciously I have been filtering in friends who are the most like me in terms of personality. Yes, I guess that's what I realised with the introspection. That I am very good at filtering friends like that, but haven't been as successful with lovers/partners.
EasyHeart Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 The key to gift-giving is that it should be spontaneous, not obligatory. I give women gifts when I notice something that makes me think of her. It's also usually a good personal gauge for me -- when I'm dating someone and feel like giving her stuff, it usually means that I like her! Also, I never spend much on gifts (except birthday and Christmas). The old saying that "It's the thought that counts" is really true. It should be something inexpensive and unique to HER, not just some cheesy thing that someone else has decided would be a good "gift". And I would never buy her something practical or something else that she can get for herself.
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