ericah Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 (edited) I'm posting this so I can finally move on from what I call my own personal nightmare. I don't want to write a book, so I'll try to condense the story. It all started two years ago when I started dating this one man. I made the mistake of dating a man with a sociopathic ex-girlfriend. Even though we had the same mutual friends, I didn't really know this woman. I started dating this man and everything was great for a little while. His ex-girlfriend started harrassing us about a month after we started dating. She tried to split our group of friends. She lied about anything and everything. She then started to harrass my boyfriend at work. We both ignored her and kept dating. Her antics went from being petty to being serious and bizarre. My boyfriend and I each experienced expensive vandalism to our personal belongings. She still split our friends. Our relationship was strong and we thought our friends would come around. Things went downhill from there however. I had talked to her earlier and told her to stop. Of course she didn't. I asked my boyfriend to talk to her and tell her that this has got to stop now. He just said "I don't know what to do. She's never been this crazy before". When he said that I knew he knew that she had done this kind of stuff before. I was tired of it and broke up with him. I thought that I would finally get some peace. Boy was I wrong. If anything, this woman became worse. She still kept harrassing me. Things were very serious at this point. She started harrassing ME at my workplace. It was weird. She acted as if I had personally hurt her. I didn't even really know her. I had never done anything to her, except date my ex-boyfriend. One of my former friends told me that they were starting to see that she was off her rocker. She said that this woman's lies weren't making any sense or adding up anymore. The last straw came when she started harrassing me at home. My kids, who didn't know anything so far, witnessed this and became scared. She had gone way too far. Around this time, she did something so horrific I knew I had to deal with this. I finally confided in my mom about what was going on. My mom told me that a lot of times the police won't do anything until it's too late. I knew I had to make a decision. I made a hard choice and decided to move. I sold my house, quit my job, packed up my kids, and moved us halfway across the country. This woman had cost me my best friend, money, and a sense of security. Since moving, I can finally have peace of mind. My kids are happy and we have put this whole terrifying mess behind us. I can't help but think God help anyone who ever harrasses me or my family like this again. If anyone ever did that again, I would take swift and merciless legal action. Thanks for reading. This has been very therapeutic. Edited February 5, 2011 by ericah
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 I was there (though not as bad as you from the sounds of it) with a woman who was high-functioning borderline personality disorder - ex of a good male friend of mine, and boy did she hate me while conversely wanting me to think she was amazing. I too had to end up moving. She destroyed my life. Ended up in therapy due to her, totally traumatised. She is still prospering. Still sucking people in with her lies and nastiness and using and hate. I still worry about encountering her,not because I am still scared of her, more that I'm afraid that I will punch her in the face if she dares come near me again and don't really want to be doing that. Legal action may not have helped. People like this can be extemely good at appearing normal when they have to. Lies trip off their tongues so easily, could have said damaging stuff about you and so on, you might have ended up in more trouble than it was worth to take legal action. Be thankful that you have started a new life away from her, for you and your kids and if you encounter anyone male or female who displays any similar characteristics, disengage as soon as is humanly possible. These people destroy the lives of everyone around them.
EricaH329 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Off topic - your user name is scary similar to mine On topic - I am *very* glad to hear you got yourself out of that situation. I'm sure you've learned a great deal from it, so it wasn't a total waste. Good for you for finding the strength to pick up and move on!
daphne Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 and boy did she hate me while conversely wanting me to think she was amazing. I've known 2 women like this. one was a best friend of mine. There are some twisted people out there. From the sound of it, yours sounds almost sociopathic.
daphne Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Erica, I'm sure you didn't post the details of the straw that broke the camel's back out of a desire for anonymity. I'm so sorry this happened. If you had to move across the country, it must have been really bad. I wish you had contacted the police, but I understand that you perhaps did not want to escalate it and bear the consequence. I'm just concerned that she'll find herself unstoppable and really do something sick to someone else. Because people like this aren't content the first time. I hope you're in a better place.
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