vanek26 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 So I have used this forum for almost a year now and as a 21 year old male found it very useful in helping me sort out my thoughts and beliefs on dating. One year ago, I was a different person than I am now. I gained a lot of experience and confidence in that time, but my goal still remains the same: to gain an exclusive relationship with someone who can compliment my happiness. I tried to online dating thing, and it has its pros and cons. My biggest issue with it is that many of the girls on there who I have talked to are very receptive to communicating over the computer and phone, but completely flake out on meeting in person... which is just a waste of my time and energy. Early on in my journey I met a girl who quickly took my virginity. I instantly became attached to her and we spent a solid month together of what for me was pure bliss. As such I ignored all of the signs that she was playing me, like how she regularly ditched me when we made plans, refused to introduce me to anyone in her family, and was extremely shady about making anything between us 'official.' I came to find out that she was banging several other guys during that time. So more recently I started to compile prospects... never being content with what I had. Not that I was 'cheating' on anyone per say, but even if my partner assumed that she was the only one in my life, I was still looking for something more. It worked... to a degree. I got laid a lot. It seemed to have a snow ball effect. By not completely devoting myself to a single girl, i appeared disinterested to them all and it made me all the more desireable. But the problem is... I still wasn't happy. Sexual pleasure is great, but it's nothing compared to the warm feeling of true sincere companionship. Which brings me to my current situation. Recently I met a girl who at the time was just another prospect. Except, to me we hit it off extremely well. So well that all of the other girls I am talking to really don't seem interesting at all. I went out again with this girl last night. We went back to her place and watched a movie. During the movie I made some advances to cuddle with her and she didn't resist me, but she didn't really seem to be feeling it. And she kept saying that she was tired. So... I was feeling really discouraged. But when the movie was over, we kissed. I initiated it, but she certainly was a willing participant. And it was a good, long kiss. So i left with mixed feelings. So here I am, anxiously awaiting her to text me... This is what I was trying to avoid. What do you guys recommend I do? Continue with my method of meeting women en masse? Or devote some energy to this one with hopes that it pans out?
liverpool fc Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 its always good to keep your options open so that if things dont work out with one you can move one, depends if she seems interested in you. try to stay focoused if you feel things can develop
czen Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 I would partially concentrate on this one, if you think it could really go somewhere, but keep your options open so you don't put all your hopes on this one girl. That way you won't be sitting around, anxiously waiting for her, as you still have other prospects.
Author vanek26 Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 So on the other hand, what do you think about my chances with this girl as it stands? Like I said, I really wasn't getting good signals from her but then we kissed. She easily could have avoided the kiss... but maybe some women just do it as a formality even if they aren't necessarily interested? ughhh
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