quietGuy13 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 I'm 31. I can't seem to understand how to move out. Here are some concerns: 1. I have a temp job , it may soon change to perm but not sure. 2. Most places to rent are apartments... but i'm just one person i dont' need a full apartment i just need a room and restroom. Moreover apartments are somewhere about 1100 a month. that's too much. About utilities and all that: I'd be fine without tv, without cooking gas cause i dont cook and i'm fine eating raw stuff and fruits. i don't really care about cooking meat or whatever. I dont really need internet that much. but maybe it will be helpful. So the only thing i would need is electricity which i won't even use much And internet. ***** So what do I aim for? An apartment with 3 rooms even though i'm just one person? that would be dumb. Or what's good for a Single guy? Also, what about money? How much do you need to survive? Am i ready to move out if I have 10000 dollars in my bank ? ******* Also how do you go out and look for an apartment? I've heard also aparment renters want people with good credit. what if you dont? i dont even have a credit card, the only place to check my credit would be because i have a car and i make payments. Oh by the way, since i will be poorer thatn i am now with my parents, is it ok to give up the car??? It's 400 per month. i don't know if i would have enough to continue paying that.
january2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 It really depends on where you are located and where you're hoping to live. Since I'm not US-based, I can only give generic advice. Hopefully, that'll serve as a starting point for you: Work out your budget (weekly, monthly, yearly) - income vs. outgoings; how much can you afford for rent? which outgoings are fixed and which are variable/flexibleWhich areas do you want to live in? Is it easy to get to work/school/regular social activities? Is the area 'safe' (police website might have crime data available online)? How far would you have to travel to get to local amenities to buy food, household items, etc.?Work out if it's cheaper to use the car or take local transportSign up to email newsletters/alerts on property websitesStart getting local papers and check property sectionsStart viewing propertiesTell your parents that you're moving out If you don't need a lot of space, you can look for flatshares or families looking for lodgers. You'd have a room to yourself but you'd probably have to share communal facilities. Bedsits or studio flats might also be an option if you can afford a little more - though I don't know if these kinds of living arrangements are available where you are. I wouldn't advise eating into your savings to pay for regular outgoings unless you're sure it's a very short-term solution until you find a better job.
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Why are you working at a temp jobs? Do you have a college education? I'm unemployed with my own one bedroom apartment. How? Grants and student-loans. Virtually all my expenses are taken care of. Sure I'll have some debt when I graduate, but I'll have a degree in a field where I'll be able to easily get a job and make some decent money.
Author quietGuy13 Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 ********** 1. Because Passing a real job interview is really hard for me since I'm not a good speaker. I went through 1 year of doing those and got nothing. When you do temp jobs there the so called big interview is not really that big and important since, you can pass easily. you're starting at a low job. they just start you at a low job but opportunities can come. Like i've been temping now for a long time there and they're gonna soon hire me in something better. 2. College education doesn't necessarily mean you're good enough for companies. Especially for me, i'm a bad speaker and shy so i couldn't pass interviews. Some of us are not great speakers you know. Companies don't want people who sound like babies. I sound like a baby cause i'm not a good speaker. Also, some of us get through college without having to do much in terms of presentations or whatever. So we have a College degree even though we're not talkative and confident. 3. If you're the typical Social American OR if you are a super genius engineer or something, good for you. I"m not that. Temp jobs give people like me some oopportunities.
carhill Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Post or answer ads on Craigslist in the 'rooms and shares' classified area. Such arrangements are generally less formal and often don't require extensive background or credit checks. In my area, rooms can usually be obtained for 300-500 per month. I specifically prohibit rooming/subleases in my lease agreements but other landlords may be more flexible. Obviously, homeowners are free to do whatever they want. IMO, at minimum, you'll want three months living expenses as an 'emergency fund'. This is especially important if your income barely exceeds your expenses. Be realistic about expenses. Living with parents can obfuscate many. In my case, I had saved up enough for a down payment on a house and had a year's worth of expense monies in the bank when I moved out at 25 and bought my first house. That was when interest rates were at 18% for mortgages back in the early 80's. Scary times, but I did it anyway. I was making ten bucks an hour at the time. Good luck
Good Arms Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 quietGuy13, you sound a lot like me. I'm 31 too, and I think I've come to the conclusion that it's time to move out, however I do it. I just feel like staying at home is holding me back, but in truth I have other issues that stopped me leaving home at a more 'normal' age (for my country/UK culture). I've been going through my first break-up so my mind is pretty scrambled right now, I'm not sure what I want to do but I know something needs to change. Maybe move out on my own in this city (but I worry nothing would change, I'd just be more lonely), maybe travel. Like you, I'm very shy, and I always did badly at job interviews, so when a temping job turned into a permanent contract, I've never found the motivation/bravery to attempt to leave my current job (been there 9 years). It's boring work and not especially well paid, but not bad money for an easy, basic job over here. I got through a university degree and did well, despite not being confident, but as I lived at home when I did it I didn't really face up to/overcome my social difficulties. I did make progress and gained some confidence when I travelled in Australia for 6 months after uni, but I kind of reverted to my old self when I came back. I have been lucky that in staying at home (and because I'm not a big spender/don't have a social life) I've been able to save up money over the years which is possibly now enough for a house/flat deposit. I'm really scared to commit to buying though, as it would tie me to staying here, and I don't trust myself to find the courage to find a more satisfying/challenging job in this city. It would rule out doing something exciting/brave like travelling or moving abroad, at least in the short term. So although I really want to move out and hopefully enjoy the independence and space, the prices of rent are just sick (I'd just be barely scraping a living), and as said I've got reservations about buying, even if that is affordable yet (not sure). I think a flat share would be good for me in some ways, it could lead to social opportunities, but at the same time personally I really like my own space and privacy - shared bathrooms and kitchens really aren't for me, although the rent would be far more affordable. So I don't know what to suggest, as I'm in a similar position, but I'm sure if you do some research, budget everything out, you'll find some good options
MrsL1987 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I moved out when I was 21. I wasn't really prepared but I moved in with my boyfriend and the circumstances at home weren't the best at the time.
Author quietGuy13 Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Well i told my parents today.. "can you give me some tips on how to move out?" and they got all mad. and just laughed at me. saying that i was stupid etc. I guess talking with parents is useless
january2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Well i told my parents today.. "can you give me some tips on how to move out?" and they got all mad. and just laughed at me. saying that i was stupid etc. I guess talking with parents is useless That's why I put "telling your parents" as the last step - I got the impression that you couldn't count on them at an early stage in the process. As an adult, you want to be the one making the decisions and doing the preparation work. They are there to support you but a huge step like moving out is going to upset them one way or another. Hopefully, with hindsight and this experience, you know that now.
Goldenspoon Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Well i told my parents today.. "can you give me some tips on how to move out?" and they got all mad. and just laughed at me. saying that i was stupid etc. I guess talking with parents is useless If you don't mind my asking, what city/state do you live in and what's your ethnicity?
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 So what do I aim for? An apartment with 3 rooms even though i'm just one person? that would be dumb. Or what's good for a Single guy? Also, what about money? How much do you need to survive? Am i ready to move out if I have 10000 dollars in my bank ? 1. Obviously not - ever heard of bachelor/studio apartments? 2. Depends on how much your bills are. Work that out ahead of time. Just as an example, I survive on probably about $1000 a month. 3. 10 grand, I would think yes. Some apartments don't check credit, especially if you're renting from a private residence.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted February 19, 2011 Posted February 19, 2011 Getting a cheap apartment should be easy. Just look around.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I'm in the position where I have to move back home. No job, no income, college sucking up all the remaining money (that my mom makes), no financial support from college, etc. I also owe a $3,000 bill to a bigger University, and until I pay that off, I can't apply for a work study. My grandma is getting older, and unable to take care of herself. So my help is definitely needed around here. But I'm afraid that, by doing this, I'll be resigning myself to not being "datable." So I know what it's like. Even small apartments can suck your savings.
idkagoodusername Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I'm trying to figure out how to move out as well. I'm almost 19 though and in college. As of now, if I do figure out a way to move out without my parents killing me, I think my older sister would take me in. I can try to give you advice though! I would make a budget. Internet would be good because that's the age we live in. Also, get a roommate. Roomies are great in this situation. There has to be someone looking for another person to live with out there, so I would give it a shot. Set some rules with them and split the costs of groceries, rent, etc. Also, if you can, get a second part time job if you can. Fast food is always hiring (this is only if you need more money). If you have an education, I would apply to every place that will take you, even if you don't like it. Sometime or another the job you want will be open and you will have the experience you need to get it. If you are serious about moving out, there is an open door! Good luck!
nicedream Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 i agree that you will need to figure out a monthly budget. try making two columns: the first column should list how much you make in a month. the second column should be all of your expenses. include a little money each month for savings, and a little for entertainment. when you add up each column, you have to at least break even. if you have too much in the expense column, see if there is anything you can cut out. internet, for people like you and i, is almost a necessity, because we are so shy. we seek support over the internet. i wouldn't see it as an extravagance to have internet. the car you may be able to do without. i sold my car when i moved to chicago a few years back. however, i found taking public transportation to be very stressful because of how far i had to walk everyday, at night and in freezing temperatures. if i were to do it again, i would definitely live closer to public transportation. always research the area you are thinking of moving to. there is tons of zip code data....crime statistics, ethnicity, median income...available on the internet. if you can't bring yourself to talk to anyone in person, just google around and look for information on the area. hope this helps!
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