sharkieblankie Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 so during the last four months Ive somehow ended up in a FWB situation with a friend of mine from college. Ive known him for a while and it started with me having a little crush on him and then at us first hooking up at a party and then slowly transitioned into getting to know each other more, and since I was not really into having a relationship at this point in my life (had a very long one before), it turned into FWB. THe thing is is that I want to end it. Not because it wasnt working(it was very nicely and problem free) but because of the 6 times we have had sexual intercourse, We've only had protection twice, and I'm mad at myself for being childish and irresponsible and I want to stop myself from having sex until I have that fixed. The 10 mins of decent pleasure are not worth the risks. I think that is occuring b/c with my ex bf of 6 years whom I was dating before we did not use a condom but used other means of protection. However this is a different situation and while in the act I can't seem to think straight. so I want to end it. I've been surprised by my lack of getting emotionally attached but I think that because I currently have an amicable crush on a girl friend of mine. So I was hoping you guys would help me with how to end it? and even share with me how you stick to your "no glove, no love"? thanks and sorry for writing so much!
Tayla Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 One of the BENEFITS of this style of relations is you get to call it off with no reason being added. IT just stops. Period. That is one of the awesome (though I think distorted) reasonings people who enter into the FWB status quo gain. The ability to walk away at any time with no emotional ties or duties to explain things. Pure and simple free pass to leave .
Cee Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 As for sticking to "no glove, no love," research the consequences. Read up on all the STIs- HIV, HPV, herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, and chlamydia. Be sure to add image searches in your research. Read about the cost and course of treatment. Picture yourself living with herpes for your entire life and having to tell that to your next GF/BF Talk to women who have had abortions. Ask them to tell you in gory detail what it was like to be on their backs in stirrups while a doctor was probing and poking. Ask how much is costs to have an abortion. Picture yourself as an unwed mom. In graphic detail, imagine your life with feedings every 2 hours and never having a social life. Ok now that we are done with shock therapy, picture this: Imagine yourself with a man or woman who respects you. Who believes in safe sex and is responsible. Imagine yourself as loving yourself so much that you would never, never put yourself in harms way. And then make that a reality. Dump this dude and go NC. He's bad for you and he's not a good person. Stay as far away as you can.
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