redhead1 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 OK. new to this. Met a guy at an online dating site. We have been getting along great. Broke down (not unwillingly) and had some fun cyber. What are the odds he will still want to date? Do men really want a girl to be "good" or is that over rated?
Hules Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Depends what are you expecting to come from this dating? casual fun, relationship? Personally for me I would find it a big turnoff if a girl I met on a dating site was trying to have cyber sex with me before I have gotten to know them and met them in person. That's just me though I don't do one night stands not into "casual fun" having sex with a stranger or someone I have no emotional connection to is about as interesting as watching paint dry to me. This unfortunately seems to make girls think im gay which is not the case though He will probably date you just don't be shocked if its only to get into your pants.
Author redhead1 Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 Thanks hun.... Kinda thought that too... and to be honest, I didn't really want to... but damn if i didn't feel like I was 16 in the back of a car with pressure... At the same time, hard not to say, "all in fun".. but yeah.. sooner or later I'd like it to be more.... wouldn't we all??
Hules Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Did he initiate this cyber session or did you? doesn't really matter who did but if he did thats pretty clear what his intentions are. He's after a booty call not a relationship.
Joe Normal Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 How good was the cybersex? Personally I would be MORE likely to date a girl if we had a hot time online first. So if he's put off by it - he's not the right guy for you. IMO it's essential to know a woman's sexuality before getting serious about them. I'm simply not attracted to sexually prudish women, so knowing she is cool with acting freaky/nasty in bed (or online) is necessary before making any kind of commitment. Some guys are the other way round. Either way, it's best to be wanted for who you are, by someone who likes who you are, rather than try and hide your nature or pressure him to hide his nature. Freaks deserve freaks and prudes deserve prudes, and never the twain shall meet.
Author redhead1 Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 I'm hoping that's the case with him... but I'm not gonna chase him when I see him online. As for who initiated it? We both flirted, but yeah, he hit it hard.. but I didn't fight it... I appreciate the info. So hard to know if I can be "me"... a newly divorced woman who enjoys a healthy sex life. I HOPE it's not like when we were kids and men only used "us" but married the good girls.... We shall see... wish me luck!
Author redhead1 Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 I'm hoping that's the case with him... but I'm not gonna chase him when I see him online. As for who initiated it? We both flirted, but yeah, he hit it hard.. but I didn't fight it... I appreciate the info. So hard to know if I can be "me"... a newly divorced woman who enjoys a healthy sex life. I HOPE it's not like when we were kids and men only used "us" but married the good girls.... We shall see... wish me luck! BTW... the cyber has been great! lol... So yeah, hoping it intrigues him... and me! Cuz if he is bad.... I could have walked!
Macaw Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 I'm with Joe Normal. I would be more turned on, but not necessarily the freaky/nasty part.
Author redhead1 Posted February 7, 2011 Author Posted February 7, 2011 I'm with Joe Normal. I would be more turned on, but not necessarily the freaky/nasty part. Thanks guys! I feel a bit better.... Playing hard to get was never my strong suit lol... Do u like to be chased, do the chasing, or a combo platter?
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