xpaperxcutx Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 would that make him think I like him? I'm not a big gift-giver and have never bought anyone anything on Vday except for maybe my friends. As it is, I'm uncertain whether I should give the guy ( I'm kind of seeing) anything. Just today, when we saw each other, we brought up a conversation where we discussed that we're two people who never bother with gifts or presents. So what should I do? Let the day pass and pretend Vday never existed or do a small gift wrap and buy him some individual chocolate pieces?
Titania22 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Considering you have already talked about not being a gift giver, he would have to be pretty dense not to get that you liked him.
january2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 (edited) If neither one of you is big on gifts, there's no reason why you can't spend Valentine's Day indulging in other ways of showing that you appreciate each other, such as spending time together doing whatever brand of fun you both enjoy. Edited February 5, 2011 by january2011
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 Considering you have already talked about not being a gift giver, he would have to be pretty dense not to get that you liked him. He is dense. Or actually, he's just really bad at remembering stuff about me. The chances of me bringing up that conversation again and him forgetting? 99%. The reason I don't want him to think I like him is because we're still at that beginning stages of getting to know you/ hang out// date and I'm not ready to spill my guts out and go ga-ga. He wants me to express myself more in terms of how I feel about him and he always teases me and joke that we shouldn't see each other anymore. Take for example: Him: So where are your family from? Me: China? Him: Where in China? Me: I told you where the other day Him: You did? Well I forgot. Where is it again. Me: ( annoying look) Why do you ask if you're not going to remember? It's really annoying to constantly remind you. Him: I told you, I don't remember stuff that aren't important. Me: So where I'm raised is not relevant? Him: It's not that important. Me: Yeah okay, please just don't ask questions that you're never going to remember. Him: Fine, maybe we shouldn't talk at all. Me: Fine. Him: No, no, I'm just kidding. ( smiles).
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 If neither one of you is big on gifts, there's no reason why you can't spend Valentine's Day indulging in other ways of showing that you appreciate each other, such as spending time together doing whatever brand of fun you both enjoy. The thing is I'm not even sure we're going to be spending V-Day together. We've kind of fallen into a small routine of just contacting each other when we're free. And if we're not, we don't really talk to each other all that much, except maybe the occasional one liner texts.
refurb Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Him: So where are your family from? Me: China? Him: Where in China? Me: I told you where the other day Him: You did? Well I forgot. Where is it again. Me: ( annoying look) Why do you ask if you're not going to remember? It's really annoying to constantly remind you. Him: I told you, I don't remember stuff that aren't important. Me: So where I'm raised is not relevant? Him: It's not that important. Me: Yeah okay, please just don't ask questions that you're never going to remember. Him: Fine, maybe we shouldn't talk at all. Me: Fine. Him: No, no, I'm just kidding. ( smiles). That seriously made me laugh. He knows exactly what he's doing. RF
Jannah Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Him: So where are your family from? Me: China? Him: Where in China? Me: I told you where the other day Him: You did? Well I forgot. Where is it again. Me: ( annoying look) Why do you ask if you're not going to remember? It's really annoying to constantly remind you. Him: I told you, I don't remember stuff that aren't important. Me: So where I'm raised is not relevant? Him: It's not that important. Me: Yeah okay, please just don't ask questions that you're never going to remember. Him: Fine, maybe we shouldn't talk at all. Me: Fine. Him: No, no, I'm just kidding. ( smiles). If I were him, I wouldn't think you liked me after that exchange. :laugh:
Eddie Edirol Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 You dont get a guy chocolates, guys dont care about chocolate, and it shows you didnt care to find out what he's about yet. Just let it pass since you just started seeing him.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Get him a small piece of candy maybe, like a heart shaped lolly pop. Chocolate is usually what men get women.
somedude81 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Ooh I love chocolate. The ones with carmel inside are the best. If a girl gave me something like that, especially knowing that I like chocolate, I would think that she liked me.
Art_Critic Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Chocolate melted and poured all over your body for him to lick off ... that is a real Valentine.. I like your idea about a few pieces of good chocolate.. but just a few pieces.. and yes it will go a long way to showing him you like him.. Other than that you could go to lunch with him...
johan Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Sounds like cultural thing. Where are you from, xpaperxcutx?
Cee Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 I would buy gift chocolates and gobble them down myself. I've just started seeing someone and we had the VD talk. And neither of us are keen on VD. VD is almost as awful as the other VD, imo. So no gifts from me. If you want to give him a gift, why not surprise him with something when the two of you are more settled. Like a pound of his favorite coffee. Or a bakery dessert.
Jannah Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Sounds like cultural thing. Where are you from, xpaperxcutx? ----------
january2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 To be honest, xpaperxcutx, this sounds like a very strained relationship. I'd confirm if you're going to spend Valentine's Day together and if not, I'd leave it and not get him anything.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 That seriously made me laugh. He knows exactly what he's doing. RF Please enlighten me. What is he doing asides from making me think having an intelligent conversation with him would be pointless? If I were him, I wouldn't think you liked me after that exchange. :laugh: Haha yes, he always does this, not just with where I am from but other things as well, and he's always the one who apologizes and tries to make up first.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 You dont get a guy chocolates, guys dont care about chocolate, and it shows you didnt care to find out what he's about yet. Just let it pass since you just started seeing him. No, he likes chocolates and sweets ( and he's in great shape). When it comes to food, he's not picky, in fact the last few times we've been out, we would go out for desserts. But he did say he was getting pimples from eating too much chocolate. Get him a small piece of candy maybe, like a heart shaped lolly pop. Chocolate is usually what men get women. A lollipop? Lol the penis kinds? Ooh I love chocolate. The ones with carmel inside are the best. If a girl gave me something like that, especially knowing that I like chocolate, I would think that she liked me. If you guys share the same minds, I bet he would think the same.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 I would buy gift chocolates and gobble them down myself. I've just started seeing someone and we had the VD talk. And neither of us are keen on VD. VD is almost as awful as the other VD, imo. So no gifts from me. If you want to give him a gift, why not surprise him with something when the two of you are more settled. Like a pound of his favorite coffee. Or a bakery dessert. Lol Cee, great minds think alike. I'm a chocolate lover myself, I love the really expensive desserts that cost almost $5 a piece, and that is what I thought about buying him. I don't know, I feel like if I buy him something, it would imply more than what it is ( or at least what our " relationship" is) and if I don't buy him something, i feel kind of cheap?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 To be honest, xpaperxcutx, this sounds like a very strained relationship. I'd confirm if you're going to spend Valentine's Day together and if not, I'd leave it and not get him anything. Actually J, if this was a strained relationship, I would be more stressed. However, I feel like what we have ( whatever it's called; it doesn't seem like a " relationship) is so casual, we get along without placing a specific term on things. Also, I can't be serious about him unless he's serious about me. In a way, I'm merely following his lead.
refurb Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Please enlighten me. What is he doing asides from making me think having an intelligent conversation with him would be pointless? Let me give you a hint. Despite what you typed above, you still talk to him, right? RF
mo mo Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 I got candy from a Chinese co-worker yesterday. It's the year of the Rabbit! I ain't taking **** from nobody!
smudge21 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 A very amusing relationship you've got going on there, hope it works out. But in regards to Vday gifts; do they still sell those love hearts candy? The ones that had little messages on (that Fry spent an entire episode looking for the perfect one for Leela). Get a packet of them, find an appropriate one, just one, gift wrap it and send it to him. Simples.
january2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 Actually J, if this was a strained relationship, I would be more stressed. However, I feel like what we have ( whatever it's called; it doesn't seem like a " relationship) is so casual, we get along without placing a specific term on things. Also, I can't be serious about him unless he's serious about me. In a way, I'm merely following his lead. You know yourself best and you know this guy best. If it works for you, it's okay. That's all that matters. I've known people who are married and yet they've always bickered even before marriage. But somehow, their relationship works and they can't see themselves being with anyone else for the rest of their lives.
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