SmileFace Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 What do people actually do in a relationship? I mean after the dating , after Bf/gf is declared. Is it just "come on over"? It seems people move all dates to the opposing parties house after status has been approved, I don't want this when I get into a relationship. I don't want to date with the only reason being , I found someone I can have regular sex with. Do people actually still do "dates" in a relationship?
TryingToMoveOn Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Dating doesn't stop after you're official and/or exclusive. For me it's about spending time with the other person, getting to know what's inside their head, and learning *why* they think or do the things they do.
depplover_1980 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 (edited) Well those in good balanced relationships do a mixture of dating, sitting around and family/friend duties. Realistically people cannot afford to date all the time and once a rappor has been established the need to 'impress' is lifted. Also couples hang together at houses because of oxytocin the love hormone which makes a couple want to be alone to bond in private, though over time it is good to avoid getting into a routine that could be resented once the honeymoon dies down! Then seeing family and friends together and testing interactions of stuff you would do long term - go shopping together,do the gardening. Just be creative in all the areas really, a relationship is what you make it. I think a lot of people miss this and want it handed automatically. Edited February 5, 2011 by depplover_1980 grammar error
zengirl Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 What do people actually do in a relationship? I mean after the dating , after Bf/gf is declared. Is it just "come on over"? It seems people move all dates to the opposing parties house after status has been approved, I don't want this when I get into a relationship. I don't want to date with the only reason being , I found someone I can have regular sex with. Do people actually still do "dates" in a relationship? My BF and I almost always make plans and have dates, though sometimes we do stay in. (We cook dinner, watch stuff, spend weekends together, play video games, play board games, etc. So it's not like it's all going out.) We do a variety of in-the-house stuff (all stuff we like and want to do) and out-and-about stuff. We pretty rarely have last-minute get togethers, but sometimes. This is mainly because fitting our schedules together isn't always easy, though we see plenty of each other with planning. I don't think dating ends once it's official. That's never been my experience, except when I was very poor and in college and dating wasn't dating yet anyway.
depplover_1980 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Zengirl I love playing board games and stuff like that with my partners. I am very competitive and choose similar men!
Author SmileFace Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 See , what is mentioned in this... this is what I want. Yet, guys seem to mention all this in the begenning then it fades. I am not blaming guys for this, I am just as much to blame. Sometimes it is hard not to fall in to that zone. I just want someone who enjoys spending time with me. From partying to taking random trips. Someone to play board games with or watch youtube with. You think it will be easier, :-\.
depplover_1980 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Hey smiler, how old are you? Don't be down me lady, it will happen when it is right but as I said you can make it happen too.
Author SmileFace Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 20 years young... :-) Yeah yeah yeah , I know ... blah blah blah - shouldn't be stressing about relationships.
Eeyore79 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 My bf and I usually spend about 3-4 nights a week together. We have regular hobbies that we go out and do on two of those nights, and on the other nights we stay home and just hang out, or go to the theatre or cinema, or have dinner with friends, or have a quiet drink in the bar down the street. We're probably out more than we're home actually
depplover_1980 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 20 years young... :-) Yeah yeah yeah , I know ... blah blah blah - shouldn't be stressing about relationships. Hey I would never patronise you, I was pretty wise at 20. But it's prob the guys you are with that are young too and it's all a learning pattern. Just take some tips and try them, you'll know when you have a good guy cos you enjoy just a game of cards and talking. Sign of compatibiltiy. Though typing that has upset me a bit cos the last time I saw my now ex man we had a 2 hour game of Monopoly and had a brilliant time, constant laughing and he ended it with his commitment issues 2 days later.
zengirl Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 See , what is mentioned in this... this is what I want. Yet, guys seem to mention all this in the begenning then it fades. I am not blaming guys for this, I am just as much to blame. Sometimes it is hard not to fall in to that zone. I just want someone who enjoys spending time with me. From partying to taking random trips. Someone to play board games with or watch youtube with. You think it will be easier, :-\. You just have to kiss a lot of frogs.
Author SmileFace Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 Hey I would never patronise you, I was pretty wise at 20. But it's prob the guys you are with that are young too and it's all a learning pattern. Just take some tips and try them,you'll know when you have a good guy cos you enjoy just a game of cards and talking. Sign of compatibiltiy. This couldn't be said any better. It is so simple but great advice . Though typing that has upset me a bit cos the last time I saw my now ex man we had a 2 hour game of Monopoly and had a brilliant time, constant laughing and he ended it with his commitment issues 2 days later. Sorry he ended it. I will play monopoly with you - won't let you win but I will play :-) You just have to kiss a lot of frogs. That doesn't sound fun
zengirl Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 That doesn't sound fun It's more fun if you approach it with the right attitude. I made it fun sometimes. And you don't literally have to kiss them all!
Author SmileFace Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 It's more fun if you approach it with the right attitude. I made it fun sometimes. And you don't literally have to kiss them all! Oh my word no! I don't want to get worts or something ... lol
Nexus One Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 You just have to kiss a lot of frogs. That CAN actually make you happy. Some people, don't ask me why, lick the bellies of certain species of frogs to get high. Apparently some species of frogs have a substance called dymethyltriptamine in the slime on their skin. Which is the most powerful drug known to man. (Also called DMT) Some people claim they've lived a thousand lives in the 30 minutes they were high on DMT, it's said to be that powerful when it's combined with some other specific molecules. The stuff is pretty much in everything though, grass, even in your brain. Every time you dream, that's DMT being released in your brain. When a human being dies an extra large dosage is released in the brain, which could explain all those spiritual experiences right before the moment a person dies. http://tinyurl.com/ycuj9p
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