donovant91 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Hey guys, I was in a LDR with my ex gf and we were together for 5 years. When I flew out to go see her she broke up with me for someone else and sent me home. I was severely heartbroken and told her if she did this she would never hear from me again, but she followed through with it anyway. Started LC to help get over it and eventually NC because she was basically rubbing her new relationship in my face. She wanted to talk to me 2 weeks into NC and it was basically about how horrible I was and how great her new relationship is. Two days ago marks about just over a month NC. She sent me an email, telling me everything I did wrong in our relationship, and that she still wanted to talk to me. I was already aware of what I did wrong, because I analyzed everything and made sure of it before going NC and beginning to move on. Because our relationship was long distance for the most part, we communicated a lot through text, because she never really wanted to talk on the phone or do webcam or anything. One of the main troubles in our relationship was it was hard to understand everything that they meant through text, and now she's busy saying I was emotionally abusive, horrible, etc. I told her I was already aware of the mistakes I made, and to please leave me alone. She keeps emailing me more and more about everything that was wrong in our relationship, and how shes the victim and not taking any responsibility and how horrible I was, but yet she still wants to be my friend. She says the reason behind that is because her new boyfriend thinks its important to keep in touch with people that had such a major impact on your life, so thats why shes basically harassing me. She thinks after experiencing two months of problem free puppy love she knows all about relationships now. I don't understand why she is harassing me. I've stopped answering her emails but she won't leave me alone, even though I told her every reply to leave me alone and that I don't want to talk to her. Any insight would be appreciated.
niptuckfan Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Is there any way that you can block her email addy? I would not even entertain the emails and just delete them before you get the itch to read them. She is looking for attention for you whether its good or bad and this is not good. If you can block her then she will get the emails bounced back and will soon get the picture.
Chi townD Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 ignore her. Delete all e-mails. Don't read them, don't reply. If you reply, she knows she's still in some kind of contact with you. Sooner or later, she'll get the hint.
MissyLove Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Seems to me that yes she wants your attention and probably still has feelings for you and wants you to chase her. But like everyone else said, she did make her choice and if you don't want to be friends or have any contact, she needs to respect that. Maybe you should just email her back and tell her and if she keeps going, then block her.
Distant78 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Hey guys, I was in a LDR with my ex gf and we were together for 5 years. When I flew out to go see her she broke up with me for someone else and sent me home. I was severely heartbroken and told her if she did this she would never hear from me again, but she followed through with it anyway. Started LC to help get over it and eventually NC because she was basically rubbing her new relationship in my face. She wanted to talk to me 2 weeks into NC and it was basically about how horrible I was and how great her new relationship is. Two days ago marks about just over a month NC. She sent me an email, telling me everything I did wrong in our relationship, and that she still wanted to talk to me. I was already aware of what I did wrong, because I analyzed everything and made sure of it before going NC and beginning to move on. Because our relationship was long distance for the most part, we communicated a lot through text, because she never really wanted to talk on the phone or do webcam or anything. One of the main troubles in our relationship was it was hard to understand everything that they meant through text, and now she's busy saying I was emotionally abusive, horrible, etc. I told her I was already aware of the mistakes I made, and to please leave me alone. She keeps emailing me more and more about everything that was wrong in our relationship, and how shes the victim and not taking any responsibility and how horrible I was, but yet she still wants to be my friend. She says the reason behind that is because her new boyfriend thinks its important to keep in touch with people that had such a major impact on your life, so thats why shes basically harassing me. She thinks after experiencing two months of problem free puppy love she knows all about relationships now. I don't understand why she is harassing me. I've stopped answering her emails but she won't leave me alone, even though I told her every reply to leave me alone and that I don't want to talk to her. Any insight would be appreciated. Please block her email and IP address. Block everything from her. She's full of sh*t. Maintain no-contact with her and find someone who really cares about you and won't be so immature. She made her choice to follow the GIGS.
Author donovant91 Posted February 5, 2011 Author Posted February 5, 2011 (edited) Thank you everyone for your support. She is telling me that she doesn't want to be with me, that she is over me and that she is truly happy with her new boyfriend. Replies I had sent previously she is trying to twist and manipulate into insults to try to make me seem like a bad person. I haven't insulted her or done anything mean to her. Her new boyfriend is far less attractive then me, and her family really adored me so I think she is receiving a lot of pressure from them as to why the sudden change of heart. It just sounds like she is trying to get a rise out of me and have me say something stupid so she will feel more justified for breaking up with me. She completely denies all of this of course, and is using some sort of bull about trying to help me for future relationships because she thinks im emotionally abusive, and not really giving me any solid reasons as to why she wants to still talk to me, other then ive been a large part of her past and she would be disappointed if we didn't talk anymore. I guess I'm just curious as to why she is acting this way if she is so happy with her new boyfriend. Edited February 5, 2011 by donovant91
MissyLove Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Thank you everyone for your support. She is telling me that she doesn't want to be with me, that she is over me and that she is truly happy with her new boyfriend. Replies I had sent previously she is trying to twist and manipulate into insults to try to make me seem like a bad person. I haven't insulted her or done anything mean to her. Her new boyfriend is far less attractive then me, and her family really adored me so I think she is receiving a lot of pressure from them as to why the sudden change of heart. It just sounds like she is trying to get a rise out of me and have me say something stupid so she will feel more justified for breaking up with me. She completely denies all of this of course, and is using some sort of bull about trying to help me for future relationships because she thinks im emotionally abusive, and not really giving me any solid reasons as to why she wants to still talk to me, other then ive been a large part of her past and she would be disappointed if we didn't talk anymore. I guess I'm just curious as to why she is acting this way if she is so happy with her new boyfriend. Cause she has issues?? haha I think she still has feelings but like everyone said, forget about her, cut her out of your life and move on! I am sure she will regret it later on. Goodluck!
Duckduckgoose Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Why would a new boyfriend encourage her to keep harassing an ex? Why would he encourage her to have any contact at all with an ex? I think she's nutters.
MissyLove Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Agree! It's a lie, she's making excuses to keep in contact with u. I do believe u need to keep ignoring her but I think it will make her more crazier and she'll probably end up knocking on your door one day, going crazy at u ignoring her but wanting you back!
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