BringThaNoise Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 So I'm 17. I met this girl at the beginnig of the year and we clicked. She fell hard for me, but I took a long time to ask her out. It wasn't because I didn't like her. My grandpa had just died and I was having family issues. There were times when I should've, but I didn't. So when I did ask her out she turned me down at first because she thought I didn't like her. I didn't talk to her for a few days and one day she came over saying she needed me and she broke down crying. We dated for a week before she ended it. I didn't really treat her like my girlfriend, but I was having some family/medical issues. I didn't tell her because I didn't want her to worry. She ended it the day before I was going to tell her what happened. Its been 2 months and I made a dumbass of myself and did some dumb things. I was stressed and overwhelmed and I bugged her a lot. I never told her what was really the problem. I just told her how much she meant to me. Like she told me to stop beating myself over it, but it's not because it ended. It's because at one point she asked if something was bothering me and I told her no. That sealed the deal. She told me things just changed and it wasn't because she didn't like me that she ended it. I need to tell her this, but idk if shell talk to me anymore. I mean she's had boyfriend issues in the past and me not treating her like my girlfriend reopened some old wounds. Like when I asked her for a second chance at first, she thought I was just pretending to like her. Like she didn't fell that I liked her when I asked her out. How can I tell her this? I mean like I don't know if she'll want to talk to me now. At the time, all of that stuff was over my head, but now I want to tell her what was happening because I miss her so much and I know what the real problem was. It wasn't us. It was just bad timing that led to a bad situation.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 It wasnt bad timing, you didnt like her enough to pay her good attention when you were having family problems. She instinctively knew this and thats why she gave up on you. You also lied to her face when she asked for the truth and she knew you were lying. She tested you and you failed. That tells her you are ready to lie to her and you dont even know that she can tell youre lying. She doesnt want to walk into a relationship with a liar. You have to understand that some people can see through your lies, and she was trained by bad boyfriends. She wont give you a chance now that she can tell that you will lie to her like the other guys. You can keep trying to go up to her and explain your grandpas death, but dont expect her to listen. She gave you a shot to tell her the truth and you blew it. If you have problems that are making people misinterpret your actions, just tell the truth next time. You will get alot of tests by women in your life, and you better see them coming.
spackle Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 I don't know about all the testing but you could just apologise, explain things briefly and ask her she'd like to try again. That or leave her alone.
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