worlybear Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Took my 9 yr old to see her oldest brother 2 weekends ago. He lives with STBXH,OW and her 11 yr old daughter as condition of tagged parole. I ppfound the meeting sad and difficult personally,but daughter and son were pleased to see each other.I took a good photo of them and emailed it to him that eve. Lo and behold ,a few days later a card drops thru the door for daughter from her father.(She won't see him.) Full of questions, eg" Do you still like writing stories/swimming etc and an invitation to reply to him. He has also told older daughter he will take oldest son up to uni to visit. (This is a 1st! You could count on one hand the number of times he visited his other sons at a much nearer uni.) She was reminded by oldest son that yesterday was his birthday and felt she should phone him. He said he had still not had a reply from his card to younger daughter and asked about us both. Youngest daughter did not/does not want to contact him. She doesn't consider him as part of her life at all and I'm not going to force her to be guilt-tripped into writing. So,......what's his game? Why has he suddenly appeared out of the woodwork, pretending to take an interest? What the hell's going on-or is he just trying to pull a fast one to prove how wonderful a father he is? I'm totally bemused-but very suspicious.
tobydog1 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Hi WB Yes I would be suspicious too...is his new rel falling apart? I surely hope so! Crawling out of the woodwork is such a lovely term for these men.... I wish I had the answers, I am sure it will all be clearer given time, for us all in the same boat. Take care Debbie x
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