Distant78 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 You can "feel sad" for her all you want - that doesn't mean anything. Maybe you should check in with her when her book sells? See how "scared" she is. Does it really matter if her book sells?
alexandria35 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Wow I hope I dont cuz if I do it sounds like you insulting 99% of the women who post on this board looking for support and that woudl not be nice. Actually I think this was meant for me and I didn't mean to come of as insulting I'm just saying what I think. I'm 45 years old and I've done all the pining and boo hooing over losers way back in my twenties and into my thirties. I'm not bitter about it, I'm happier right now then I have ever been in my whole life. I don't like to see any woman give up so much of her self worth and her power to a man. I don't think anyone should hang their worth on another person but it seems that women do this far more than men do and I think it's such a waste of ones precious time. I just don't understand women in my age bracket or older who think the end all and be all is getting some married cheater to leave his family and who are willing to endure endless amounts of pain to make it happen. Don't women outgrow the fantasy of winning prince charming at some point? On another thread we've got OW speculating about how threatening their fabulous selves must be to all the bw's. Huh? A mans decision to cheat hinges on his character and his integrity, not on how fabulous the OW is. But enough about that, because I'm not even neccesarily talking about cheating and affairs here...I'm talking about women being strong individuals who don't twist themselves into knots for a man. Which brings me back to my initial post. I couldn't be that woman in the article either. I have do unto others, respect my fellow humans and myself to firmly implanted into my character to be able to engage in that kind of activity. But at least that woman wasn't tearing her hair out over the guys and enduring agonizing pain in the hopes of winning the lying cheater.
Woggle Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 http://www.mydaily.com/2011/02/03/new-york-mistress-cathrine-goldstein-sleeping-with-mortals/?icid=maing%7Cmain5%7Cdl7%7Csec1_lnk2%7C41544 I actually like this interview and how she said that a man decides to cheat first and then finds a woman. More ow need to read this and realize they are not special. They just happened to be there when he decided to cheat.
alexandria35 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 A worthwhile read: http://www.heartlessbitches.com/rants/manipulator/special.shtml
SoMovinOn Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Most of the MM described on this board sound like your average person who is not any more successful than most people and is not lavishing the OW with gifts or turning her into his fantasy woman, or treating her to her fantasy life from a material standpoint. I agree. It's a whole different ball game.
SoMovinOn Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Hmm.... I disagree that sex happens faster when having an affair - at least in MY case. We didn't have sex until months after the affair started. Her point was that the second date in an affair could be months after the first - so sex would be on the second date, but months after the A begins.
Distant78 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Not all OW are dumb. They are when they decide to help destroy a marriage.
jenifer1972 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Alexadria is on the money IMO. I don't understand the amount of mental masturbation and mooning that goes on here about these douche men who won't tell their wives or leave their wives so they can have a choice too, and keep these OW on a string. To me it seems support should be getting advice how to get out of the snare of these guys, not how to keep it going..
jj33 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 That may be your take on what advice should be but its not why everyone comes here and not the sort of advice everyone is seeking. This is not the forum to help people get out of an affair. Its support and discussion for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner. So unless the intent of the owners has changed (and I didnt get the memo on that) people are free to discuss coping with remaining in an affair. But that is the subject of another thread so lets not further pollute this one.
alexandria35 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 That may be your take on what advice should be but its not why everyone comes here and not the sort of advice everyone is seeking. This is not the forum to help people get out of an affair. Its support and discussion for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner. So unless the intent of the owners has changed (and I didnt get the memo on that) people are free to discuss coping with remaining in an affair. But that is the subject of another thread so lets not further pollute this one. Did you forget the opening post? Nobody was asking for advice. A discussion was opened based on an article about this particular OW. Of course people are free to discuss coping with their affair. Just as I am free to take part in this discussion.
jenifer1972 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Did you forget the opening post? Nobody was asking for advice. A discussion was opened based on an article about this particular OW. Of course people are free to discuss coping with their affair. Just as I am free to take part in this discussion. Exactly. The post is about a SERIAL calculating adultress who is now profitting from her behavior. Hard to "pollute" a thread like this with any opinion.
Distant78 Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Exactly. The post is about a SERIAL calculating adultress who is now profitting from her behavior. Hard to "pollute" a thread like this with any opinion. A "highly-trained professional" adultress who uses her skills and experience in the field to contain valubable assets.
OWoman Posted February 7, 2011 Posted February 7, 2011 And talks about her life in this interview with the New York Post. The sentence bolded below especially caught my eye. "We didn’t have sex on the first date — it was on the second. Sex happens faster when you’re having an affair — there’s no three-date rule, because with a married man you don’t see that often, three dates can take a month. And for the guys at least, it’s all about the sex; I knew they weren’t with me for my stellar conversational ability or extensive degrees." ETA: A very interesting article altogether. Having lived it, she has some hard & straight facts about what it's like being an OW. OTC - I think she illustrates very neatly the difference between being an OW and a mistress. I've been a serial OW, and I cannot relate to her experiences at all! She lets some dude order her food for her - in a language she doesn't understand!! Who does that??? No one but me gets to choose what I put in my mouth... and then she acts surprised to discover he's "controlling".... Admittedly, anyone happily signing up to be a beauty queen or a model must be more interested in the superficial than the substantial, but she doesn't come across as too big on braincells. If a guy is shopping for an airhead, why is she surprised when he treats her like one? I think these "hard and straight facts" may apply to the very small subset of airhead mistresses who market themselves on their appearance only, in exchange for expensive knick-knacks, and then trade themselves in and prostitute themselves to a single punter (in the form of a H) once they reach their sell-by date. But it certainly has nothing in common with the lifestyle of any real life OW that I know, and definitely nothing at all in common with my own past.
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