chelle21689 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I'm so confused, someone please help me I'm desperate for answers. We've been dating for 5 1/2 years but 2 1/2 years long distance. He's been in the Army for a bit over a year now and I've always been there for him. He leaves training in June and deploys Sept/Oct and after he came back I was suppose to move to be with him in the fall! We almost made it!! He was crying really hard on Skype telling me his feelings have changed and weren't the same. He told me that he felt he grew apart from me despite our daily skyping/gaming. He said my visit felt different and that he did everything he could to try to change his feelings back. He didn't want it to end but he felt too guilty staying in the relationship and stringing me along...especially if he's deployed. He told me he didn't want to lose me so we kept contact for a week until I couldn't take it and went "NO CONTACT" until I heal... he was upset. but I promised I'd be there for him if he needs me during his deployment... He said he has no idea why he feels this way. He says it's not the distance, not another girl, not wanting to see other people. He said he doesn't know...but MAYBE it's the Army and it's changes on his life... Everyone says it's long distance but I feel like it isn't because we did it for 2 1/2 years. If it's the Army then why were we doing so great for a year? I helped him. Back in October he did say things like "I'm preparing for you to leave me cuz I'm in the Army" or things like "You'll never be happy with me because I'm in the Army and I'm always gone and busy..." "I need you now more than ever" but that was 3 months ago. Before no contact, we spilled our feelings. He seemed to be holding back a bit but he told me that he didn't want to make his decision and he's sorry more than I could understand for him to do this to us and fail us.
Lucky_One Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 LDR's are simply not a lot of fun for everyday living. People get lonely and tired of being the one who doesn't have his girl over when he and roomies cook cheeseburgers outside. Being the one with no date at a Super Bowl party. Being the one who always has to tell his friends "No, I can't go out, we are supposed to skype at 10:30 tonight" They want someone to snuggle with, someone to pick them up when they drop their car off, someone to bring them soup when they have a virus, someone to pay for the pizza this time. 2 1/2 years is a LONG time to be unpartnered for the vast majority of your "living". (((((chelle)))))
Author chelle21689 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 (edited) I can't help but think it wasn't the distance though. He even told me he doesn't think it is because he can handle distance or maybe he thinks he can. It's like, "You can't even wait 4 more months and then you're gone for over a year in Afghanistan and I'll be moving with you when you come back!?" Edited February 4, 2011 by chelle21689
folieadeux Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Chelle, based on all your other posts about this relationship, there's deeper issues here than the miles between you.
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