tiger20 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I think a good rule of thumb is for guys to date a woman for 4 years & then wait for her to ask him to get engaged. Why? because only when she's asking him to get engaged will he know it's the right time to get married. Even though I believe it's the woman's job to ask him to get engaged it is still the boyfriend's job to go out & buy the engagement ring. So I will never ask a woman to marry me. I will wait for her to ask me to marry her. This will be the proof that she has 100% interest level in me. Marriage is a serious step anyway so I don't know why many guys are in a hurry to propose. Better to wait for her to ask you if marriage is that important to her. Why ask her when you don't know what her answer will be anyway?
Author tiger20 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Bottom line is that if a woman wants marriage so bad then she should be the one to propose. Otherwise don't complain about not being married if you're not willing to propose to a man.
denise_xo Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 In modern relationships, I don't think there are many things to speak of that are purely and exclusively 'the woman's job' or 'the man's job'. I've 'proposed' and have no issues with being a woman and tabling that topic. But I don't think it's 'the job' of one partner. If a couple can't discuss the issue of engagement and marriage and figure out where they both stand and what they both want together, in a way that makes both feel confident that there is mutual trust and commitment and honesty, then they shouldn't be considering marriage in the first place.
january2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 (edited) So I will never ask a woman to marry me. I will wait for her to ask me to marry her. This will be the proof that she has 100% interest level in me. When you mention your own relationship goals in your threads, there seems to be quite a bit of conflict regarding interest levels and your goals. In one of your other threads, you said that you want to find a female 'friend' who has low interest level in you and therefore will not want sex. Yet, in this thread, you're saying that you are looking for proof that a woman has 100% interest level in you, which is indicated by that woman proposing marriage. So, in review, you're looking for a female 'friend' who you see once a month, who you don't have sex with, who has 100% interest level in you when she's proposing marriage otherwise has low interest level in you at all other times? Is that fair a fair summary? Edited February 4, 2011 by january2011
Duckduckgoose Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Hmm... its an interesting point you bring up. I don't know if you should wait for the woman to propose, but you should be talking with her about future plans (a good sign), maybe about moving in together... about getting married one day. If she can't tell you she would like to get married to YOU eventually then she's clearly not interested in being married to YOU. That's not necessarily waiting for her to propose, that's just gauging her interest levels in marrying YOU. Once you've gotten that far, she might take the bull by the horns and want to look at engagement rings, might have a few things picked out in her mind. This is as much of a "proposal" as you will get from most women. Only very very assertive woman will literally propose to their man... do you get the man the ring? How does it work? So basically a woman's "proposal" as Tiger describes it is just letting the man know she is interested in marrying HIM, so he won't get rejected when he does buy the ring and pop the question.
sally4sara Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Isn't this how it already happens? Not so much the 4 year mandatory time table but I don't know any couples who didn't discuss marriage and their individual goals toward taking that step with each other before any ring got slipped on a finger. The proposal is just a formal act to what they previously agreed to already. Maybe it use to be some coy song and dance number where finding a marriage was so paramount to women that a guy could expect a yes without previous discussion on the matter. Its just not relevant anymore because women don't have to get married to survive. But it wouldn't surprise me to learn that even then, there was some previous discussion on the matter before a formal proposal was made. I got a bended knee proposal, but well before that, before the ring was even made, he already knew the answer because we'd talked about it first.
anne1707 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Wait four years? A gal stays with you for four years, and yet you question her interest level? Good grief. Well would you really be interested in Chris250?
Star Gazer Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Well would you really be interested in Chris250? Help me understand...
sally4sara Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Wait a minute............is it Honor your Inner Troll Week again already? This same guy is over in another thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t263627/ An issue that would have him never wanting to get married or even really date anyone more often than once a month without ever being expected to have sex EVER. Why would he even be contemplating the best way to go about getting engaged and married in the first place? Its starting to really stink around here.
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