luvflower Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 Now, I know plenty of girls who date the wrong men, but it has nothing to do with not wanting to be tied down and everything to do with just having bad taste/people-picking skills. That's a maturity thing, and men and women are guilty of it when they're younger. Seems as though the people-picking skills exists at any age, for real. You also have a point, with regards to mo mo's comment,i.e. females not wanting to be tied down. Those who don't just don't. But I think most females WANT to be in that monogamous relationship, whether it's dating or marriage...as long as the guy is worthy. Women want to be "tied down" (I don't even like using that phrase "tied down", but anyhoo...) with a man they can respect, trust and admire...
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2011 Posted February 5, 2011 It was my experience that during my 20's guys in their 20's did not want to settle down or have kids or get married. It wasn't about me not wanting kids, wanting to be independent, I didn't meet one guy who 'was ready', they all wanted to continue playing the field. This was my personal experience, and to be honest, I get really sick of reading news reports about how 'women are choosing to delay having kids'. I didn't choose. It wasn't my choice to delay, it was thrust upon me by the fact that any guy I met in my twenties and beyond had no desire to form a lasting relationship with me or anyone. Nor do I want to be a single mother and never did so get sick of people saying 'if I were your age I'd just get inseminated' - what??!! Now I'm in my 30's and I don't like reading on here about how women were party girls in their 20's and then get desperate in their 30's after blowing so many guys off. I partied, I had fun, I went to college, all that, but I still wanted love, a relationship. It takes two to tango and there are too many immature men out there who want to prolong boyhood and irresponsibility forever and will not commit to anyone except their own selfish desire to have meaningless sex with as many women as possible, then call those women sluts and other single women desperate. I just don't like the way people paint it like it was my choice to not have kids and that due to all the men I turned down in my twenties (I wish) that I'm now desperate. Women need men to complete the picture of marriage, commitment and kids. You can't magic that up on your own you know.
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