snug.bunny Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Hello there. Need help with a first date question, so here goes!.... If you went on a date with a woman and at the end of the date when you are both saying goodnight she says "maybe I'll see you around", would you think she was interested in seeing you again or would you interpret it as a polite blow off....??
Author snug.bunny Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 I'm not into the "trying to decipher woman's words" but if the date was great, we had fun and it lasted for more than 4 hours, then I'd be happy, believe me, I'd be happy even if it didn't continue. See you around...hmmmm I think "So will I see you again" would feel better to me. I see your delima. True, but I was still kind of on the fence at that point and our date was less than 4 hours (he had to leave early).
ivalm Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Hello there. Need help with a first date question, so here goes!.... If you went on a date with a woman and at the end of the date when you are both saying goodnight she says "maybe I'll see you around", would you think she was interested in seeing you again or would you interpret it as a polite blow off....?? Very hard to tell, could be a blow off, but if I was the man and was interested I would ask the woman for another date and see how it goes.. Certainly the reply doesn't scream of enthusiasm. Also, welcome to LS!
oaks Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Hello there. Need help with a first date question, so here goes!.... If you went on a date with a woman and at the end of the date when you are both saying goodnight she says "maybe I'll see you around", would you think she was interested in seeing you again or would you interpret it as a polite blow off....?? Is that what you told him and now you're worrying about what he's thinking? If he likes you he'll be hoping you meant it in a hopeful way and if he's really insecure he'll think you meant it in a dismissive way. If I was the man and I wanted to see you again I would ask you on another date... simple.
Author snug.bunny Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Is that what you told him and now you're worrying about what he's thinking? If he likes you he'll be hoping you meant it in a hopeful way and if he's really insecure he'll think you meant it in a dismissive way. Hi, thanks for your reply! I don't recall how I phrased it exactly but it was referenced to an event a couple months down the road that maybe we'd see each other at... He did say he'd hope to see me sooner. So I went to say goodbye while we were sitting down towards the end of the night and he asked if he could shake my hand . I went to shake it and he laughed and said "no I meant like a hug". He called me a couple hours post date but didn't ask if I'd like to go on a second date. If I was the man and I wanted to see you again I would ask you on another date... simple.
Nexus One Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I'm not into the "trying to decipher woman's words"And most men aren't. Men generally don't read between the lines of a woman's words and actions. Making them do it would only annoy them. It's best to be clear and direct to a man in a tactful manner, because that's a style of communication they can understand, otherwise your message might not come across at all due to them being completely unaware and oblivious to that sort of cryptography.
Author snug.bunny Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 And most men aren't. Men generally don't read between the lines of a woman's words and actions. Making them do it would only annoy them. It's best to be clear and direct to a man in a tactful manner, because that's a style of communication they can understand, otherwise your message might not come across at all due to them being completely unaware and oblivious to that sort of cryptography. Well my words and actions initially was me showing an initial interest by suggesting the first date....Which I did. He was quiet/reserved during our date, so I guess I wasn't sure if he was into it and that's why I said "well maybe we'll see each other at such and such". It was only a first date so I don't think either of us expected magical ponies to appear in the midst of it. I figured at that point, if he would like to go out again, he will call and ask me out.
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