RomoGuy Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I know it sounds crazy, but could someone break up with to see what you would do? See what you end up doing after the break up? how you react? where you end up without them? maby because they are unsure of who you really are, I dunno.. sounds crazy but is it possible?
Xewkija Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I certainly thought about this and still do... But like you said.. Sounds crazy.
babybear Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I don't know if I would break up with a guy as a "test" for fun or anything. But I definitely would do it if my needs weren't being met - with every intention of working it out if things did in fact change. So, I guess in that way, I would want to see what he would do after...if he would consider what I said and try to make changes or meet me halfway. Hope it helps.
Author RomoGuy Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 I don't know if I would break up with a guy as a "test" for fun or anything. But I definitely would do it if my needs weren't being met - with every intention of working it out if things did in fact change. So, I guess in that way, I would want to see what he would do after...if he would consider what I said and try to make changes or meet me halfway. Hope it helps. Well before I met her, I was kind of a man whore compared to her. She seemed convinced that I had changed just to be with her. True she did influence in a good way and brought out the better in me. But what if she felt she was the glue holding this better me together? (which I think is the main reason she left).. Would a girl in this situation leave to see where her ex would end up later on without her in the picture, because of that doubt in the back of her head?
babybear Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Seems to be more of a defense mechanism for her because she's probably having trust issues about the whole thing. And she doesn't want to stick around to get hurt by you. Have you tried asking her why she left? And what if anything can be done to help her trust you?
Author RomoGuy Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Honestly I doubt it was trust issues, I never gave her a reason not to trust me. But I may be wrong. Dont know too much, the reasons she gave me didnt add up.. and she said we can't be friends and no contact after so we can both focus on what we need to do. So it has been 1 month since and I have not tried contacting her in any way. here is my story if your interested. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259492/
bluebirdsfly Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Honestly I doubt it was trust issues, I never gave her a reason not to trust me. It's not you. Trust issue comes from some early life experiences and people with this issue just couldn't trust others, even if there is actually nothing to distrust.
Tayla Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Sometimes people need to grow more then glow more. Love makes ya glow... perhaps now its time to grow...in good ways on your own....
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