StarryEyes86 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 So a couple of months ago, I started talking to a guy from POF. Really nice, seemed pretty interested. We'd talk on Yahoo for hours on end. We tried making plans to finally meet, but our schedules always conflicted. He added me on Facebook and we started commenting on each other's pics, statuses and links. It seemed we were making a good connection. He then went back home for two weeks (out of state), but we still chatted pretty consistantly. The day he came back, he texted me that he couldn't wait to finally meet me, etc. etc. The last couple of days got weird. I wished him a good day back at work. No response. Then later that night he texted me a pic of a new TV he bought and then he invited me out to a movie, and I said, "Okay, when?" No response. Finally, a few hours later, I said, "Did I scare you off by asking when?" And he said, "No I fell asleep". I said okay and again...no response. I decided to no longer initiate contact with him anymore bc I figured if he was *really* interested, he'd be showing more...interest (pun). So its been three days and he just contacted me on Yahoo Messenger. I said hi...took him 20 minutes to respond. All his responses started taking 10-15 minutes and now its whittled down to nothing. I'm tired of it. I'm irritated that I invested so much time in getting to know him and what pisses me off even more is when HE initiates contact and then either responds really slow or nothing at all. I'm sending him one more IM, because I'm no longer interested in him but I want to tell him how rude he's being...so nothing to lose, right? "Anyway...you haven't being really responsive lately...which is a bummer. You said you were wanting to meet me and stuff but then you haven't followed through. And then you initiated chat on here but then you leave me hanging. I'm not quite sure what to think of it and maybe you're just busy. But I'm not waiting anymore. You seem like a really cool guy that I'd love to meet, but I'm tired of the anticipation and if nothing is going to happen...not even meeting up, then I'm moving on. I'm gonna go to derby and hit some bitches and if you are serious about finally meeting, you know where to find me. If not, have a nice life and good luck out there." What do you guys think?
Author StarryEyes86 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Okay...quick update...now he's saying on IM, "I hope you haven't given up on me yet...But that's my fault because I've taken too long to see you lame on me" WTF?!? :mad::mad:
Hules Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Sounds like hes hiding something (secret girlfriend/wife/something else?) and just seems to be having fun stringing you along. Had a nice girl who I had some long conversations with do this to me, got really flakey when I tried to arrange times to meet up for a coffee. I'm pretty new to the online dating scene but i'm quickly learning that its better to arrange to meet a person sooner rather than later. Weeds out the people who aren't interested and are only interested in wasting your time online for whatever reason. I would say buzz off to this guy and move onto the next.
SmileFace Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Is his name Adam or Chuck? -- Oh boy, I hope not...lol I dealt with a guy like this - found out he was married. Yet who actually knows, you should leave that one alone.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Its way too obvious that he has something else going on already and you are on the backburner. When he stopped the quick responses, he got another woman and isnt sure that she will work out, so he feeds you crumbs. If he was really interested, you would have met him by now. Cut him off entirely, youre not that desperate.
sammyd Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Its way too obvious that he has something else going on already and you are on the backburner. When he stopped the quick responses, he got another woman and isnt sure that she will work out, so he feeds you crumbs. If he was really interested, you would have met him by now. Cut him off entirely, youre not that desperate. Sorry, but yep, i think the same.
Author StarryEyes86 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Thanks for your replies everyone. Here's an update...He did ask me what my weekend plans were in what I thought was an attempt to meet, and I mentioned that I had to work. He then said that he was going downtown with friends as well. I don't get why he would ask me what I was up to and then pretty much hint that he was too busy. Then I just left the conversation. He's still buzzing about my Facebook replying to my statuses and stuff. I'm going to move on to a new beau...the whole situation was more annoying and confusing than anything. And yes...his name is Adam
tigressA Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Yes, he's yanking your chain. Good on you for deciding to move on. Don't even give him a sendoff; he doesn't deserve it. Just go total NC.
SmileFace Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Thanks for your replies everyone. Here's an update...He did ask me what my weekend plans were in what I thought was an attempt to meet, and I mentioned that I had to work. He then said that he was going downtown with friends as well. I don't get why he would ask me what I was up to and then pretty much hint that he was too busy. Then I just left the conversation. He's still buzzing about my Facebook replying to my statuses and stuff. I'm going to move on to a new beau...the whole situation was more annoying and confusing than anything. And yes...his name is Adam You got to be ****ting me? You live in NY by any chance?
Author StarryEyes86 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 You got to be ****ting me? You live in NY by any chance? LOL..no I live in CA. Adam used to be married for a couple months this year but it ended for some reason...he's also military. He hadn't officially told me about the marriage, it was on his Facebook. Crazy thing, I figured if he did have something or someone else going on it would show on his Facebook. I have to say, when you brought up the name Adam I started laughing. Be more icing for the cake
SmileFace Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 LOL..no I live in CA. Adam used to be married for a couple months this year but it ended for some reason...he's also military. He hadn't officially told me about the marriage, it was on his Facebook. Crazy thing, I figured if he did have something or someone else going on it would show on his Facebook. I have to say, when you brought up the name Adam I started laughing. Be more icing for the cake Wow ,I nearly fell out of my chair when you said his name is Adam. Haha, well I guess it must be a general "Adam" thing.
Jazzari Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Thanks for your replies everyone. Here's an update...He did ask me what my weekend plans were in what I thought was an attempt to meet, and I mentioned that I had to work. He then said that he was going downtown with friends as well. I don't get why he would ask me what I was up to and then pretty much hint that he was too busy. Then I just left the conversation. He's still buzzing about my Facebook replying to my statuses and stuff. I'm going to move on to a new beau...the whole situation was more annoying and confusing than anything. And yes...his name is Adam He started to ask you out. You turned him down by saying you had to work. For all he knows, it was a brush off. He tried to save face by saying he was busy too. I think you are WAY overthinking things here. People have lives and you can't expect someone to be at your beck and call every second on your terms and time. I'd give him a chance and at least go on one date. Then take it from there.
Author StarryEyes86 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 He started to ask you out. You turned him down by saying you had to work. For all he knows, it was a brush off. He tried to save face by saying he was busy too. This was after EVERYTHING else had happened. Did you read my other posts when he did ask me out and whenever I asked, "When?" he never responded? Saving face though...interesting. If he actually contacts me again and seems to want to follow thru..."maybe" I'll give him a chance. But until then, I'm gonna list this one as a fail lol
tigressA Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 He started to ask you out. You turned him down by saying you had to work. For all he knows, it was a brush off. He tried to save face by saying he was busy too. I think you are WAY overthinking things here. People have lives and you can't expect someone to be at your beck and call every second on your terms and time. I'd give him a chance and at least go on one date. Then take it from there. I really hope this post is sarcastic. He did ask her out once and then completely bailed on that, then made up some lame excuse about having "taken too long" to see her. If he had really been sufficiently interested, they would've had at least one date by now. She's his back-burner option; it's totally obvious. OP doesn't deserve that **** and it would be unwise for her to give this loser another chance.
Jazzari Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 This was after EVERYTHING else had happened. Did you read my other posts when he did ask me out and whenever I asked, "When?" he never responded? Saving face though...interesting. If he actually contacts me again and seems to want to follow thru..."maybe" I'll give him a chance. But until then, I'm gonna list this one as a fail lolSorry, I do remember that now. I just read this thread and didn't connect them. Yeah, I can see why you feel like he's jerking your chain.
Author StarryEyes86 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Sorry, I do remember that now. I just read this thread and didn't connect them. Yeah, I can see why you feel like he's jerking your chain. No worries Hilarious side note: Ironically my mom gave me "teasing tips" to use on this guy that could actually work. I never saw an evil side to my mother before hahaha.
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