jessy1 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 (edited) Hey all! I need some advice! My ex (unnofficial) started seeing someone else maybe a month ago and broke my heart. The whole story is very long but in basic terms we were inseperable for months and I was really in love with this guy and he would tell me the same, he was awesome!! To cut it short he was sleeping with other girls and telling them all the same things he told me. One day after txting me really cute things just before, he came into work and annoucned he has a new gf without breaking it off with me first or even telling me. This girl must have been around when he was telling me he loved me and wanted only me . He then came up to me and told me he was sooo in love and had never been so happy. He told me hes meet the girl of his dreams and he now wants to settle down. I was absolutly crushed! I have gone full NC for a month since this happened but I see him everyday and he is sooo happy. Anyway another guy has come into my life. He is a reeeally nice guy. He treats me really well, absolutly nothing like the last one. I've been on a few dates with him but I absolutly have to force myself to go. It is nothing to do with him at all, I am still so down from the last experience. I put on a brave face and force myself to go but I come home each time and cry for ages after as I am hurting over the last guy so much I want to move on SOOO bad, I want to forget my ex SOO bad but I just cant seem to. Some days are worse than others and I feel so horrible and upset that I dont even wanna talk to this new guy, i just wanna be on my own. I wake up each morning and I think of my ex and how he will have someone else in his arms and I cry for a while. I then try and put on a brave face and see this lovely new guy but my heart aches the whole time and no matter how dam hard I try I cant seem to get my ex and his happiness out of my head This new guy is lovely and I really don't want to hurt him as im so mucked up in the head He is everything I want in a guy yet I cant seem to force myself to want him as much a I want my ex How do I move on?? Do I stop seeing him? Im scared I wont be able to give him enough attention and the respect he deserves as Im still hurting so bad over the last ex. I would never ever go back to the guy I was seeing before and I am aware he is a bit of an ass, I just hurt so bad when I think of his new found happiness with this girl I want to move on and get him out of my head so badly and i really want to give this new lovely guy the attention and respect he deserves. How do I do this??? Please help me move on!!!!!! Any advice would be amazing Edited February 4, 2011 by jessy1
Cee Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 You jumped into a new dating thing far too soon. Simply tell the guy that you jumped the gun on dating and realize that you aren't ready. End it with him and wish him well. That's the truth. And the truth is the best way to let someone down easy. By the way your ex sounded sadistic in the way he broke up with you. It was unnecessary to provide that much detail.
Author jessy1 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Hey thankyou for your advice! Both of it is very good but very different! haha I agree with both of you! Firstly I am still so hurt by the last guy and the last thing I want to do is draw someone innocent into it and not give him the full attention he deserves. But on the other hand I know in my mind there is no going back, I WANT more than anything to get him out of my mind. I want sooo much to forget him beause he is not worth it at all! But my heart wont seem to let me This guy was unofficial with me. (I was dumb and thought he was taking things slow before putting a title on it) I guess he didnt HAVE to break up with me but after all the things he told me, and after all the cuddling/kissing and telling others I was his girl I gues it would have been the respectable thing to do. He thinks he has done no wrong and can't for the life of him work out why im not talking to him!! Knowing he is now happy with someone else and does not care at ALL about me reallly really really hurts, and it is that which is stopping me from mmoving on. Is there anything I can do to help this? Should I be honest with this new guy and just tell him whats going on or will that freak him out?? Let me know and thankyou so much in advance!!!!!!!
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