Xewkija Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 This summer I have the possible option of going back to Europe for maybe a month. However the plan was for me and ex to go together (obviously thats not the case anymore) the place I will be going to is my country and I promised her 2 summers ago that when I go back I will take her with me.. it just sucks because we always talked about going and had all memories of what it would be like. Obviously I have 6 months so who knows what will happen between know and then. So here's my question. If you had the option of going to Europe but you always wanted to go with your girlfriend who is now your Ex, would you? Do you think it will help with the coping or do you think it will upset you even more thinking that it could have been an awesome time together and possibly spiced up the relationship and save it, what are your takes on this? I really want to go but just the thought of how we were suppose to go together and enjoy it to the max just hurts.
marqueemoon4 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I think you have to do your best to forget her, and take the trip. Meet a bunch of new people, have a great time and make new memories. It's her loss.
0hpenelope Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Nope. That's just opening up a box that's just best left shut either for a long time or forever. Have fun on your trip, ok? Enjoy yourself and you're right, 6 months is many months away. You'll probably feel much better by then.
SoCal_Guy Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 Do NOT take her with you if you still have feelings for her beyond friendship. Please. I write from experience on this. A previous ex and I had been broken up for about eight months and we still took a trip to Europe together. I had a blast, but I love to travel anyway so that wasn't hard. The difficult thing was she pretty much hooked up (no sex) with this random guy we met in Romania and all the progress I had made in getting over was washed away. I got madder at her that night than I ever did in our 3.5 years together. The strange thing is that was the final straw for me. I actually moved on and lost all feelings for her about a month later. We are on speaking terms now and are friendly when we communicate (about once a month or so). So, maybe if you're looking for closure, take her? I'd take the trip by myself if I were you, or if you have a really good buddy that has similar likes, take him.
Good Arms Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I think there's some confusion here. The way I read the OP's question is should they still go on this trip - alone - nothing about should they go with their ex. And my opinion is yes - do it! I'd love to do some serious travelling right now to take my mind of my break-up. If you already had something planned, then do it. I'm sure meeting new people and seeing new places will make the healing so much easier for you, and there will be enough going on to distract you from feelings of sadness that you originally planned to go with your ex. I'd take this chance while you've got it.
0hpenelope Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I think there's some confusion here. The way I read the OP's question is should they still go on this trip - alone - nothing about should they go with their ex. And my opinion is yes - do it! I'd love to do some serious travelling right now to take my mind of my break-up. If you already had something planned, then do it. I'm sure meeting new people and seeing new places will make the healing so much easier for you, and there will be enough going on to distract you from feelings of sadness that you originally planned to go with your ex. I'd take this chance while you've got it. I re-read it and I see your point. OP, I stand by what I said earlier. Have fun on your trip, ok? You're definitely going!
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