dgarci4150 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 So i was with this girl for 2 years and well of course everything was great. time flew by so fast and we was always laughing and we just connected like leggo pieces. we planned on getting married we was both very serious about the relationship and promised each other nomatter what would happen we would work it out but we never fought at all. about 1 year and 4 months into it she caught kicked out of her moms house and that when things started getting difficult for us. i can barely take care of myself and she had no social no job no car and her family turned her back on her. so she stayed with her brother for a bit but didnt work out there eithier. so then i took her in at my moms house and well my mom is very protective and well i fought a lot with my mother and back her up through a lot and well then my mom kicked her out and so i left with her to my dads and we was living out my dads living room. and i helped her out so much, i took her everywhere she needed to go helped her get her social fixed and get a job then get a bette job and helped her get her drivers lisence. well all during this time i was fighting my dad a lot as well about her he was getting tired of her being there. and it was a lot of stress for me to handle it really was.i was giving her more than i had to offer but i was all she had. and sometimes i would act different because of the stress alll the fights with my folks i stood up for her alot and put myself through a lot to help better herself. well my dad had enough and wanted her out, but he really liked her a lot but he just couldnt have her there anymore i mean we lived out his living room in his tiny apartment. and we wasnt readly enough to get our own place. and so i asked her to go to her dads house and she hates her dad and for the death of me didnt wanna go and eventually she did but held it agaisnt me even though i never told her it was my dad that wanted her out not me, because i didnt want her to hate my dad because he was the only family i had so i took the bullet for it. and well two weeks after that her dad helped her get a car ith money i helped her save and a rented room she can afford. and i told her to go to her dad and he would help her and she didnt believe me. well shortly afterwards she said that she doesn't love me anymore and can;t be with me and blamed me for a lot of things like me asking her to go to her dads. and for all the times i stressed out and acted different. and the last phone call we had was ugly she said" if i couldnt handle her at her worst i dont deserve her best" which was hard to swallow beacuase yeah i we both wernt ready for it but i tryed anyway and i brought her up from her worst, and she holds it all agaisnt me for things she don't understand. and then she said "i dont fu**** love you anymore leave me the **** alone" and that was about 1 month and a half ago. i havent talked to her since. and two weeks after the break up she started dating someone else and spending the night at this guys house and slapped on a promise ring from him. and that hurt like hell only two weeks was very soon everyone tells me that she was prolly talking to him already and planned the break up. or is this a rebound relationship???? he is in the in the airforce and comes down every weekend he;s stationed in missouri and is supposed to come back this month or april. i was hurt, sad, and depressed and just a mess and well i am a lot better now thanx to my friends and see things clearly and know that i at least deserved for her to try from everything we promised each other and i dont need someone like her in my life. because i felt different about her at times from all the stress and for her to roll over like that and not at least try and to take everything i worked so hard for to get her were she's at so me and her can live life together stress free without ansering to anyone or wrrying about how we are gonna make it. she takes it and gives it to him> and im the one who deserves it. I have things to get off my chest with her and it's like idk what to do she screwed me over bad i destroyed my mothers relationship for her. and put myself through a lot. i wanna hope for her to come around but at the same time i dont . everyone tells me she:ll realize it and by then it will be too late... you gonna move on. and i kinda feel that way. but i have things to get off my chest with her not to hope that she'll will wanna fix things but to clear my head for closure for myself because even if she will wanna work it out it wont be the same because she will be thinking of this over guy and that will be in the way. Some people tell me just just let it go complelty that if she wants to blame me for everything and can't understand to just let it go it's on her. im 22 years old and she's gonna be 20 everyone tells me we are both still to young and both have a lot to learn and grow up. I think about her a lot still..sometims think afo writing her a letter or a phone call but i dont. i don;t want to talk to her and maybe have it set me back on all the progress iv'e made within myself... idk what to do.
0hpenelope Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 everyone tells me she:ll realize it and by then it will be too late... you gonna move on. and i kinda feel that way. but i have things to get off my chest with her not to hope that she'll will wanna fix things but to clear my head for closure for myself because even if she will wanna work it out it wont be the same because she will be thinking of this over guy and that will be in the way. Some people tell me just just let it go complelty that if she wants to blame me for everything and can't understand to just let it go it's on her. im 22 years old and she's gonna be 20 everyone tells me we are both still to young and both have a lot to learn and grow up. I think about her a lot still..sometims think afo writing her a letter or a phone call but i dont. i don;t want to talk to her and maybe have it set me back on all the progress iv'e made within myself... idk what to do. Just focus on moving on. Seriously. It does get hard, we understand. And don't entertain thoughts of getting in touch with her, either. You're not going to hear what you want to hear.
Yamaha Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 she doesn't love me anymore She wasn't willing to put in the work during hard times so I would say her statement to you is true. She doesn't love you enough to stay with you. Nothing you can do about it but find someone who does love you AND WILL stick it out (even in the bad times).
alimpo83 Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 It hurts like a thousand knives but It happened the same to me, same time and all. She didn't want to be with me, even tough she was the one who wanted to get married, have kids, move in together. But when the time came, she bailed out. She didn't love me enough or she didn't know what she wanted. She still doesn't. Try to move on, I'm barely making it, more floating than moving. Be strong!
Author dgarci4150 Posted February 4, 2011 Author Posted February 4, 2011 Thanx guys for ur opinions at times I hope there's a futur for us but I gotta face reality.
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