brneyedgrl Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 So for those of you unfamiliar with my story my ex ended our relationship of 6 years a month ago Saturday. We still live together but I'm moving into my new place on Tuesday and although it's scary I also have feelings of excitement and new beginnings. I have managed NC for about three weeks now except for the one note left yesterday regarding financial issues that are being wrapped up. When he broke my heart I was devastated and didn't know what to do with myself, though I'm happy to announce my path is becoming clearer by the day thanks to words of advice from friends, family, and LS posters. The day after our demise I typed him a three page letter that included everything I felt, thought, would miss and the happy and rough times in the 6 years we've spent together. I've been adding to this letter for a month, including anything that popped into my head. It's not a letter to get him back, as I realize i will positively never want that again, it's a letter to wrap up our chapter and basically let him know I was happy and I'll miss him but am now living my life for me. It was also a release for my emotions, kind of like a journal. There were angry, confused parts and reminicent happy, parts... but mainly hopeful parts that included my future. Since I will most likely not see him while we move out, I left it for him on the kitchen counter as I know he comes home while I'm at work. I was hesitant to leave it as it gives him mroe insight into where I'm at now but I guess it's also good because now I will have nothing left to say to him if I ever get the urge. Hope it was a good idea!
Bluebelle38 Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 Hey hon I think it was a great thing to do. Yopu laid it all bare. You can move on now knowing that you've said it all. Your No Contact will be easier, not easy, but easier. You sound really lovely I hope he realises what he's lost. Onwards and upwards eh and best of luck in your new place. Embrace all the exciting changes. BB x
FRDSSTR Posted February 4, 2011 Posted February 4, 2011 I think you made the right move. That's a great way to get closure on the whole thing and you won't have any regrets about leaving anything unsaid. Wish I would have done the same with a couple past relationships.
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