metalman_ii Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I seriously screwed up big time last night. I was spending time with my ex-gf the past few days, and it was definitely heading towards reconciliation. We had a great night last night, and I took her home. Her mom offered to take me home and my ex-gf rode with me in the car. We had a great conversation and all. Only problem was, my ex's mom started making some comments that hurt my ex-gf. Shortly after, we stop for a bit because she needed to go to the bathroom. I went with my ex. As she comes out, she's crying her eyes out because she was embarassed and she honestly believes that her mom hates her. I tried to reassure her that her mom absolutely loves her. ...That's when I made a very critical mistake. I told my ex to stay away from the car while I spoke to her mom privately. I told her mom that her daughter loves her, but sometimes she feels that her (the mom) doesn't show her love to my ex. I told her that if she said "I love you" to my ex, she would really appreciate it. Now that I look back, I can't believe how dumb I was for even attemping to interfere. Her mom did actually say "I love you" but as soon as she dropped me off, she was silent to my ex the whole time. Thing is, I love my ex very much, and for the 1.5 yrs I went out with her, I always just stood by as she would endure these things from her family. I wondered, "What kind of man am I that would just stand there and not try to help?" Honestly, I just got fed up with the whole thing. Her family treats her like crap. She's a great girl, but her family just holds her down. So she called me afterwards and was crying more, and she thinks that her mom hates her even more and that I only made it worse. She still said she loves me and asked me if I still loved her. I said yes. I spoke to her this morning, and she's still hurting about the whole situation and that she's still very mad at me. I'm seriously in the dog house right now. I apologized over and over and I even cried with her last night, but I'm not sure what to do at this point. Should I just stay clear of her for a while? Is the damage to our reconciliation irreversible? I'm hurting so much right now. Any advice or words of encouragement would really help me right now.
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