Butterflying Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 (edited) I know the answer is to tell the other what they want to hear just to get sex and once sex happens, the liar moves on to someone else who will fall for their trick. Is sex really "Sooooo" important that someone is willing to potentially ruin another person's life over it? I think there are enough people in this world who only want sex that people could just be honest about this. I don't understand why anyone would join a dating website and meet someone who specifically says "I'm looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with." A sex preditor sees this and tells that person they are looking for the same thing. Goes about dating each other for weeks all the while claiming to want the exact same thing. Then they take it to the next level, have sex. Then BAM, it's over!! Just like that!! The liar disappears never to be seen or heard from again. WTF!!!!! Someone please tell me this isn't just about sex. How can sex be that important? And even if someone does have sex on the first date, big deal!!! Why do people put so much emphasis on sex: some using it to judge people, some going to extremes just to have sex with different people? And you would think if the sex was bad, there had been a previous intrest in each other, you could talk about ways to make it better. At least have respect for the person to tell them the sex was bad instead of just disappearing. Edited February 3, 2011 by Butterflying
Emilia Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 some people have no scruples and just try to get what they can at any price. in my experience that tends to be men who are not very successful with women usually. what I have seen so far is that most men that only want sex are honest about it, if they are not, you can tell by the fact that they don't really try to get to know you, they don't try to spend time with you and generally keep it 'cold'. if someone only wants sex from you, it's a reflection on him, not you. it has nothing to do with whether the sex was good or not.
Woggle Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I don't see what is so hard about simply saying you want just sex and being honest. There are plenty of people who want the same so find them. There is no need for lying in the dating world because there is always somebody who wants the same thing you do.
utterer of lies Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 ... People are people. That's it, nothing more and nothing less. Some are trustworthy, many are not.
LittleTiger Posted February 3, 2011 Posted February 3, 2011 I'd love to tell you it isn't just about sex, but sadly it is. Some men will do anything for sex. The 'player' types you're talking about are 'prowling' the dating websites looking for attractive women to have sex with. They look at the photos NOT what you've written (most men do this anyway) and if they see a woman they 'want', they'll say pretty much anything to get her. Even if they do read your profile, they don't care if you're looking for love, you can find that later, once they've taken what they want. The profiles they're most attracted to are those where the woman is showing some flesh. So, if the photos on your dating profile are anything like the one in your LS avatar (beautiful as it is), I suggest you remove them. What these photos say to men is 'this is what's on offer'. If you advertise yourself in such a way they're not interested in what you think or what you're looking for on the site. If you post photos that are a little more 'demure' you'll find a whole different type of man will start contacting you. One who actually bothers to read your profile for a start. You can still post really attractive photos but keep your clothes on. Oh, and bad sex has nothing to do with it. You could be the best he's ever had, but you're still just a notch on his bedpost. Sleeping with you again will just mess up his scoring system.
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